OrangeSnack Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 (edited) What are some of your advices on how to get to know her better? Lets use my situation for example, I know her through work but we work in different offices, I know her through my friends at work. I've hung out with her once and it was at a bar so we had a few drinks. She GAVE me her number, without me asking for it, funny thing was she i gave her the phone so she can put her number in and she didn't put her name but instead she left it under "your worst nightmare" lol. I definitely felt she was interested, but perhaps it was the alcohol talking. The very next morning i went to her office, not by choice but coincidentally. She was not thrilled or excited to say me, almost ignored my presence. I texted her the very next day to see how she was doing. She did not text me back the day after, saying she has left the company. We talked briefly and I made her laugh a couple of times. However, she never responded back to some of my texts, where I was hinting on dates. Now I am not a person that gives up easily but I definitely don't want to be a pest. I do however, given the short amount of time, want to get to know her more. So what should I Do? A). continue to text her, sending signals of interest and of course wanting to get to know her more B). Call/text her directly to setup a "lunch date" during her break from work C). forget about it and just leave her alone because she's just not interested What would you do if you were in my shoe and you would like to take it to the next level? Honestly guys how often do you let girls give you their numbers without you asking for it? Because I have never officially had a girlfriend before, I want to be persistent! I want to show her a little swagger, if not confidence and a little stern with my approach. Of course I dont want to be annoying or stalkerish. I just want her to give me a fair chance and opportunity to WOW her. I want this to work out, because I feel that we can learn so much from each other (she's completely opposite from my personality) and I feel that I have nothing to lose! One of my good friend told me that it is good to date someone different from you because it will make you stronger and it will help you become a better, more balanced individual. Your thoughts/concerns. Edited April 21, 2011 by OrangeSnack
windows Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 We talked briefly and I made her laugh a couple of times. However, she never responded back to some of my texts, where I was hinting on dates. Now I am not a person that gives up easily but I definitely don't want to be a pest. I do however, given the short amount of time, want to get to know her more. So what should I Do? A). continue to text her, sending signals of interest and of course wanting to get to know her more B). Call/text her directly to setup a "lunch date" during her break from work C). forget about it and just leave her alone because she's just not interested Mate, I was just in your position (actually I kind of still am). You should forget about it because she isn't interested. Her lack of response to your hints at dating should be enough to tell us she isn't interested. If you have to be certain, go for B) but don't expect anything. Well, we don't like giving up don't we? Let's pick ourselves back up and find hope in someone elsewhere. Best of luck to both of us.
makelemonade1974 Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 It baffles me as to why she would give you her number and then not respond. How drunk was she? It sounds like she's had some lifestyle changes lately - left the company? Are you facebook friends? Maybe just stay in contact via facebook and after a week or so send her a message asking her out? I just had some guy on facebook ask me out this morning after being my facebook friend for 4 months, because he just now decided he wants to date - very strange. What a confusing situation - you might be just perceiving it as rejection. If I see someone at work and I have a deadline, it doesn't matter who it is, they are going to get ignored (in a polite way). Maybe just face-to-face ask her out point blank, or ask for a lunch date. Don't beat around the bush - girls are super irritated by guys who do that - kind of like "are you going to ask me out or not?" That said, take advice from the men on here, not me. I am the most idiotic dater in the history of mankind.
spice4life Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 I would go with B and just ask her out to lunch. I agree with the other poster that beating around the bush can be annoying to a woman. I mean this in the nicest way - man up, go for what you want and ask her out. There is nothing to lose.
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