Gizmondas Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 So me and my girlfriend have been dating for about two years, were both 17, i know we are young but i feel this is something really different with her. Everything was going fine and smooth, we'd had a few arguments here and there but nothing really bad, she'd stay at my house every weekend and we'd share a bed, we talked everynight and we were really close. She told me she loved me and talked about our future, marriage and kids, moving out together when we hit 18 etc. But two weeks ago it all fell apart, i'll explain why So over the course of our relationship, there was this friend she had, nothing ever happened with them while we were dating, but a few weeks ago she said she's being feeling confused about this whole situation because she's started to have feelings for him, and that she needs some time alone to think about it and called our relationship off. At that point i was extremly annoyed and frustrated, and the days following i was a complete wreck, drinking more, have actually stopped being a "social smoker" and now smoke a packet a day, not turning up to work, cant concentrate on things, physically hurting my self etc. So last week sometime she told me this guy was at her house and that they kissed, and i felt like a knife went right throught my chest, but she did say she regreted it and it felt wrong and cold. The next day she came to my house, and we really couldnt seem to keep away from each other, we were cuddling and kissing [among other things] and talked a bit about our situation, she told me she feels trapt and has commitment issues,but at the same time still love's me and cares about me, but is to scared to be in a relationship right now. Its been about a week since that day and she's come over twice since then, both times we've had the exact thing happen, we get really close and start acting as if we are together. Last night she told the other guy that she doesnt have any desire to be in a relationship with him because he doesnt feel the same way about him as he does her, and that she still has feelings for me, but after all whats happened between us she still doesnt want to be in a relationship with me, but still wants to continue what were doing whilst leaving the door open for another guy, which to me seems rather unfair, considering shes still telling me she loves me and still feel's strongly towards me. I do love her and would do absoulutely anything for her, and i do still want to be with her, but at the same time i dont want to force her into being with me just because its what i want. Addtional details: I dont really have any friends apart from her, so i do feel i need her to be there for me and support me, right now im really depressed and i'm having very bad panic attacks and tear up when im trying to sleep at night, and i do feel like this is putting alot of responsibilty on her shoulders. That was part of the reason she left. I don't know what to do, if any one could help with some advice on what i should in this situation or if there are any ways to show her we can work with out forcing her into it that would be great. Thanks in advance!
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