Can't hide the elephant in the room!

[i made a mess]

So it's been nearly 2 weeks since the ex and I started talking again after a 5 month hiatus on his part. I never had the impression that 2nd chances are easy, but tippy toeing around the giant pink elephant in the room that is so indiscreetly trying to hide behind a sock is really stressful.

 

We've talked on the phone a few times, exchanged a text here or there and even spent some time and a few kisses together last week. No conversation about why he decided to give me his new number and call me, no conversation about where he's been. My initial reaction when he called was to leave the past in the past...but after really thinking about it, him bringing up that he had received my letter and the nature of our recent interactions, I feel now we need to address all of these things. We last spoke Friday when he wanted to know my schedule for this week, suggesting perhaps we could go out one night this week. But our schedules are so different we really have to plan how to spend any time together. He's worked all week, then he's going out of town this weekend to see a friend fight and I'll be leaving early Monday morning for business travel all of next week. So we're working on it as best we can.

 

Other than the night he brought up the letter I sent him, there hasn't been much opportunity to discuss anything. He brought the letter up when he stopped in to the gas station while I was putting gas in my car. Not exactly an opportune time to discuss a heartfelt letter sent 5 mos ago while standing at a 7/11 pump while he's sitting in his police cruiser. Suave right? Not so much.

 

What am I doing differently this time around? Less texting, more talking on the phone. And can I tell you, I have realized why physically talking to one another is so much better than texting and why he hated texting so much when we first started dating so long ago. No drunk texting. My god that is huge for me! lol.

 

Anyone else working proactively on moving forward with an ex and can offer some words of wisdom or tips to keep things moving along at a slow and steady pace?