Hot_fuego Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Hello all i am new to all this. Ok well first of all i want to admit to being super jealous. I get very jealous and curious of my girlfriend when I ask her something and she tells me I do not need to know everything she does. This is true I don't. But when I ask her and she does not answer me i feel as if she is hiding something from me. Although I let her talk to guys and hang out with her friends. I dont not like that she talks with them facebook msg them or hang out with them. I have told her that i am very jealous before. we have almost been going out for 1 year(not much), and i have not had much trust or maybe just too jealous. and till this day my trust has dropped. Just recently she has told me that she cheated on me about 5 months ago and although she has broken my heart i would like to continue being happy with her. This week has not been so good, she has got mad at me for asking what she was doing even after she told me she wasnt going to tell me, she also got mad cause i asked her sister who had told me that she was doing her a favor. And today she told me a friend gave her a friendly kiss on the cheek(she didnt let herself he just did it) and she told me not to call the guy and i still did and she got mad b.c. i did. Is it wrong for me to be acting like this? How can i stop being jealous or insecure? I know she loves me, and although she has hurt me I know she wouldnt hurt me again. If she leaves, she'll leave and I love her so I'll let her go if she wanted to.
Bryanp Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Maybe you should ask yourself why would you wish to continue being in a relationship with a woman who cheated on you and broke your heart after being together for 5 months? How will you really ever be able to trust her again? If she really loved you then why did she cheat on you?
KatieB Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Its not wrong for you to be acting like this! Don't let her make you feel like you're being unjustly jealous, she has cheated on you after all! It is very unfair that you are being made to feel this way and you are so much better than that! Get yourself a real woman who will treat you right and not walk all over your feelings like that. and I agree with Bryanp, how can she love you if she could do a thing like that. You seem naturally insecure and her actions are only making it worse for you. My advice would be to get out while you can and find someone who will make you feel good and help you overcome your fears instead of confirming them and making you unahppy Good luck x
Kelemort Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 When I first started reading this, I was siding with the girlfriend. Then I kept reading. She cheated on you. Then another guy kissed you. Makes me wonder if she fessed up because she knew others had seen it, so she figured she'd beat 'em to the punch and downplay it. Leave the relationship. Five months in and cheating? No wonder you're jealous. But were you jealous before all of this? It's one thing to be jealous if you're made to be second fiddle while your partner's sniffing elsewhere. But if there is no EXTERNAL cause - you're jealous just because - that's something that will haunt you from relationship to relationship. Seek therapy, if necessary.
Author Hot_fuego Posted April 21, 2011 Author Posted April 21, 2011 well the thing is this girl is so sweet, you would never image her doing something like this and she has told me that even she couldnt believe that she did that, and yes i have been jealous before but i always bite my tongue, if she didnt something i didnt much like id let her do it, so i wouldnt push her away. She has told me that she has messed up and she is very sorry. She doesn't take advantage of me, she is shy,she wants me to be her everything and she is nice in everyway just the fact that she messed up badly. and everytime we argue she is the one that always seems to have a point for me being so jealous and i end up looking dumb
Stilicho Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 listen man, u sound about the same age as me, and i know u feel she truly loves u, but she doesnt. i was in the same position with my ex, who seemed to be and acted like the perfect picture of innocence and kindness and caring, but in the end, she got caught kissing somebody else after 2 yrs. dont fall for her b.s, leave her, shes not worth the mental anguish and doubt that you will always carry. i know that you feel she is, but once you leave her and your feelings settle, you will know you made the right decision.
Author Hot_fuego Posted April 22, 2011 Author Posted April 22, 2011 I actually think she means it. She has promised to tell me more things when I ask and she has also deleted many guy friends from her phone, and yeah she has basicaly isolated herself some what begging me to stay with me.
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