whoknowswhattodo Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Ok the ex has un blocked me on fb but hasn't sent me a request. Should I send her one? What is she doing?
sandman223 Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Don't read into it. Don't do anything. Otherwise, you will drive yourself crazy.
Layzie89 Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Do NOT send her a request to be friends. She probably got a curious and unblocked you to see what you've been up to. If she wanted to be your friend she would have added you by now. Don't over think this man, like I said she just got curious and probably forgot to block you again. If I were in your position, I woukd block her. That alone will send her a message. A better message than if you were to add her thats for sure.
ShoeGurl1973 Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Mine did that too immediately after we broke up. He blocked me. I figured he was just being an ass. So you know what I did? I made my profile completely public so even if we werent friends, he could click on me and see everything. You know people have a natural curiosity to see what their ex's are doing with their lives now that they are out of it - so I figured he would no doubt try and see what he could find out on me. I wanted to make it as easy as possible for him to see I'm moving on, having fun and not giving a **** he's not a part of my life anymore. Mysteriously, about a week or two later, he unblocked me. We still are not "friends", but that's ok. My advice is not to send him a friend request at all.
sandman223 Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 is there any reason I can't PM? Do I need a certain number of posts?
sabienne Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 There is a privacy option on fb where you can set it so only your friends can pm you. I have this option in place, always have due to my career. Don't take it personally if the ex does, there might be other factors. I have personally defriended my ex but I have not blocked him. Not that it matter, my profile is under lock and key, but I always ensure I have a hot profile pic Facebook is awful for breakups. The temptation to check up on them is way too high, and you end up analyzing every little thing. Every time a woman commented on his page who I didn't know, I immediately got defensive. For my own mental sanity, he went. If he was to request me, I'd ignore it to keep my sanity in tact. I recommend you follow the same path!
Fufu Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 She deletes you, blocks you, undeletes you, unblocks you, all these have nothing to do with you anymore and they do not matter to you anymore. Don't read her actions anymore. It's just only going to hinder your healing process.
ahoy Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Ignore it. My ex has been blocked for ages, and today she managed to message me. I tried to reblock her, but she's already on my blocked list so I can't. I'm just waiting til facebook sorts it out. Quick question, should I just message her saying "I haven't unblocked you, there's something up with facebook. Can you block me please?"
Layzie89 Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Ignore it. My ex has been blocked for ages, and today she managed to message me. I tried to reblock her, but she's already on my blocked list so I can't. I'm just waiting til facebook sorts it out. Quick question, should I just message her saying "I haven't unblocked you, there's something up with facebook. Can you block me please?" Don't. By asking her to block you, you're telling her that the breakup is still bothing you. Just leave it, if you have her blocked it will sort itself out eventually.
ahoy Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Yeah thought as much, glad I held out on the NC. Didn't see any harm in asking here first though
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