Stockalone Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 (edited) Do you do "good morning" and "good night" texts? I have never done that. I don't really see the point and I don't like texting in general. When in a relationship, I've always sent/received good morning/night texts., if we didn't actually talk on the phone. I thought it was normal/common. Yeah SG I am also surprised to read that people here see it as a chore. I always had it in the past too... Did you initiate this, or did the guys? I know guys who don't care either way (text or no texts), but they do this text routine because their girlfriends expect them to. Edited April 21, 2011 by Stockalone
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted April 21, 2011 Author Posted April 21, 2011 Guys always initiated . After that, I would occasionally text good morning/night first. I would never ASK a guy to do this I also wouldn't initiate at first for the fear of appearing too clingy....
zengirl Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Did you initiate this, or did the guys? I know guys who don't care either way (text or no texts), but they do this text routine because their girlfriends expect them to. I think generally that's true. Most guys are happy when I tell them I don't want to text all day long. I did have the one exBF who thought I didn't communicate with him enough and I didn't love him enough (I really did love him A LOT, actually, but we had such different communication/attachment styles) and essentially broke up with me over it eventually, and he was ALWAYS texting me. One time, we were at a work function together (we worked in offices that were related) on two different sides of a room, in our separate groups for teambuilding, and he was texting me! I mean, geez! Let me do my silly group activity in peace. He really wanted GM/GN texts, I think, but he was the only guy I met who really dug that. I know a lot of guys who text to keep girlfriends happy (the girlfriends don't ask for it, but the guys want to appear as "stable" as possible with girls they find MM), which I think is sweet. And I do think guys and girls who are truly in love will reach out to each other pretty regularly regardless, but a lot of times women tend to need more regular contact than men.
Confusedalways Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 When we first started dating, it would always be good night and good morning texts. Now, we just stick to good night and I love you texts Occasionally I'll get a good morning text (he's always up first), but it's not something I look for anymore. I do text him when I wake up, though- but not with good morning.
jerbear Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Ex's and I used to do something similar using emails, texts, calls. It does become a chore with the texts after awhile. Guess I'm the guy saying this. I (we) always end the day with a call, if not email.
yah Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Eh, I'm just saying its a chore because it just becomes expected after awhile and I don't find it fun to say "good morning" and "goodnight" everyday. When its not done on a daily basis, those texts just become more special to me. It just seems fortuitous to me as a routine. I mean, what, am I expecting him to have a bad morning if I don't say it? As another PP mentioned, two people in love will regularly reach out to each other on a regular basis anyway. All I care about is how my SO's day is going and I don't care if he texts me to let me know he's awake or asleep.
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