Snooks Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 Hi, I've read a lot about rebound relationships on various forums but can't seem to decide if my ex's new relationship falls into this category. To summarise; Together 10 years, she breaks up with me saying she had been unhappy for a while and we were drifting apart. 2 days later she moves in with a guy she had met at her dance class. Parents aren't happy about what she's done and don't take a liking to the new guy. My ex doesn't even tell them where she is living. Takes 4 months to sort out our finances, etc, during which time I get emails every now and again to say she's feeling down or sad or hasn't been well. Even one telling me about a dream she had! Majority of contact is initiated by her. After 4 months I move out of our apartment and she and her new guy move in. 3 weeks later I get a text to say they have got married!! Only 4 people at the ceremony, none of them her parents. I've been NC since then but will have to contact her next week to finalise a financial issue. A little info on my ex. She's 42 and was getting divorced when I met her. Her ex-husband had left her for another woman. We met 6 months after he left her. A little info on her now husband. He's 40 and divorced with two kids back in his native country. He told my ex he loved her via facebook 3 weeks after she left me. Prior to that they had not been friends on FB. The month leading up to me leaving our apartment, he told my ex on two occassions that he didn't want her alone with me - controlling characteristics? Okay, would this be classed as a rebound considering how quickly she moved in with the other guy or, is it just a case of getting dumped in favour of someone who is 'better' for her. Cheers!
TaraMaiden Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 This is of no relevance to you whatsoever, and doesn't matter in the least. She's your ex- and she's married the guy. End of story. Whether it's rebound, soul-mates, love of her life or run for cover - she's an ex- who's now married - it's nothing to do with you, any more.
VJohnson32 Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 Rebound relationships at her age are quite unlikely. I always thought that people that rebounded were young individuals in their early or mid 20s. People with insecurities and having problems dealing with emotions on their own. She might have been unhappy with you for a long time and stuck with you because its convenient for her but emotionally she was gone. My ex is in classic rebound relationship. I talk to her occasionally, she tells me she doesnt love him nor she is in love with him, on top of all that she hates the sex with him. The sooner you realize who they really are and what their emotional and psychological state is the quicker you will move on.
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