Kelemort Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 Just wanted to collect your opinions on what you consider to be 'seriously dating.' I've seen people use this description for their relationship as soon as they've started dating. Do you think that 'seriously dating' is when you establish exclusivity? Is it when you begin discussing your future together, like where you'll live, careers, kids, marriage? Is it when you prepare to get engaged or once you're engaged? Just wanted your opinions. For me personally, I think it's when you start thinking about the future. Until then, it's sort of just a temporary, "until things change" sort of situation to me.
EasyHeart Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 It's when she stops laughing at your lame jokes.
runner Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 i see it as that stage between 'dating' and 'in a relationship'. when you both are clearly into each other and don't have much of a desire to see others- typically before the exclusivity talk.
zengirl Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 To me, seriously dating is not a stage of dating but a TYPE of dating. To me, people who date seriously are people who are only interested in dating for a potential 'forever' partnership (whether they believe in marriage or not). It's the only way I usually date at this stage in my life.
january2011 Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 Having recently learned that there is a difference between dating and 'being in a relationship', I would consider "seriously dating" to refer to two people who are in a relationship where they mutually agree that they are 'together' and involve the other person in decisions beyond the social arena.
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 I see seriously dating as two people that are committed and whose mutual goal is a LTR or marriage.
Author Kelemort Posted April 21, 2011 Author Posted April 21, 2011 Ha, didn't expect so many people would agree with my viewpoint. It's just a pet peeve of mine when I have a friend who's been dating someone for a month or two and they're entirely uncertain about what they want out of the relationship, yet all they do is go on about how 'serious' it is. Bigger pet peeve - boyfriend had a relationship that was exclusively long-distance and knew most of the way through that it probably wouldn't last and they'd almost certainly never get married, yet he'd always refer to it as 'serious.' Maybe I'm just strange - I always figured 'serious' included the present and the future, not just the present.
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