StoneCold Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 Why are you married anyway? just curious why am I still married? or why did I get married?
StoneCold Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 its a thread by where HA22 wants to vent about the cheater in her life. Perfectly healthy outlet. and then there is you, someone who wants to take her pain and twist the knife. who cares what the circumstances are. this is a vent thread. no matter what happened, cheating is never justified and the betrayed are entitled to vent a little when triggers cause them pain. Oh give me a break Memphis... she called me a prick in response to an answer to a question SHE asked me...and because my answer (to HER question) isnt in line with her thinking shes calls me a prick
Author HalfAlive22 Posted April 27, 2011 Author Posted April 27, 2011 why am I still married? or why did I get married? Both I guess
Spark1111 Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 Spark, it's not really my boat to row, and I'm sure SC has set things straight elsewhere, but I have NOT seen him say infidelity is a natural outcome when the M turns bad. I read his posts to say: Take it all in context Infidelity is not the be-all and end-all where crappy marriage behaviour is concerned, other issues can be equally as hurtful/harmful/wrong Bad treatment in the R for one party does not justify the same in return, but it will often contribute And as for - he has to be right.... I think there are some he's engaged with who are much more of that mindset. I think he is simply extremely confident and secure in his own views. But SG, it is SO insensitive in this thread, don't you agree? HA22 has stated all she did or tried to do to be a devoted wife. He was A SA, but she loved him so it still hurts. It would be like you, so happy in your relationship, to discover your MM had many many women other than you!!! And someone says, well what did you expect? OR, what did you do to deserve it?
Author HalfAlive22 Posted April 27, 2011 Author Posted April 27, 2011 Oh give me a break Memphis... she called me a prick in response to an answer to a question SHE asked me...and because my answer (to HER question) isnt in line with her thinking shes calls me a prick Ok sorry I called you a prick..
John Michael Kane Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 Ok sorry I called you a prick.. You don't have to be sorry for anything.
StoneCold Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Both I guess Why did I get married? My views today of marriage were actually my original views. But being the dope that I was I let other people "change" my opinion. I let them tell me I was wrong and I drank the punch. Invaluable lesson learned there...as they say..... you live and learn....and boy did I learn Why do I stay married? We are going through our own process of disolving our marriage.
dreamingoftigers Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Why did I get married? My views today of marriage were actually my original views. But being the dope that I was I let other people "change" my opinion. I let them tell me I was wrong and I drank the punch. Invaluable lesson learned there...but as they say..... you live and learn. Why do I stay married? We are going through our own process of disolving our marriage. Sometimes it isn't the punch as much as who serves it.
StoneCold Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 (edited) Sometimes it isn't the punch as much as who serves it. When I say "i drank the punch"... I'm talking with respect to buying into the popular "opinion" of marriage in general...which is contrary to my original opinion... anyways I learned my lesson....and I'll never do that again Edited April 28, 2011 by StoneCold
dreamingoftigers Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 When I say "i drank the punch"... I'm talking with respect to buying into the popular "opinion" of marriage in general...which is contrary to my original opinion I got that, it was just my cute little way of saying that there may be nothing wrong with the institution, but maybe you married one of the inmates instead of one of the doctors or nurses.
Author HalfAlive22 Posted April 28, 2011 Author Posted April 28, 2011 Why did I get married? My views today of marriage were actually my original views. But being the dope that I was I let other people "change" my opinion. I let them tell me I was wrong and I drank the punch. Invaluable lesson learned there...as they say..... you live and learn....and boy did I learn Why do I stay married? We are going through our own process of disolving our marriage. Oh so your disolving It? I see
StoneCold Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 I got that, it was just my cute little way of saying that there may be nothing wrong with the institution, but maybe you married one of the inmates instead of one of the doctors or nurses. Wel dot the failure stats dont lie...... That said igiuess theres a **** load of "inmates"..$ which makes marriage as an institution not viable
Silly_Girl Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 But SG, it is SO insensitive in this thread, don't you agree? HA22 has stated all she did or tried to do to be a devoted wife. He was A SA, but she loved him so it still hurts. It would be like you, so happy in your relationship, to discover your MM had many many women other than you!!! And someone says, well what did you expect? OR, what did you do to deserve it? Right, fairy nuff. New thread required. Gotcha.
StoneCold Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 But SG, it is SO insensitive in this thread, don't you agree? HA22 has stated all she did or tried to do to be a devoted wife. He was A SA, but she loved him so it still hurts. It would be like you, so happy in your relationship, to discover your MM had many many women other than you!!! And someone says, well what did you expect? OR, what did you do to deserve it? Fine I'll leave
pureinheart Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Thats only if they know nothing of their parents relationship and more often than not thats the case as parents now try their hardest to not fight in front of the kids or publicly go at it. Eventually the kids wise up and figure things out and their opinion tends to change. My dad cheated on my mom and that happened back when I wasnt even the type to cheat and I did not feel betrayed..at all....but of course I knew that my parents relationship was a sham...my mom was no angel, neither was dad. Only difference there is I knew the whole truth.... I didnt feel betrayed because: A) I understood that my parents relationship with each other has nothing to do with my relationship with them. and B) I understood that my dad will always be my dad and hes a damn good dad at that... I never had any complaints with the life he provided me and I am very grateful for that SC...this is awesome, and I haven't read all of your posts, although what I've read makes sense....
Memphis Raines Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Oh give me a break Memphis... she called me a prick in response to an answer to a question SHE asked me...and because my answer (to HER question) isnt in line with her thinking shes calls me a prick again, its a vent thread because she is in pain. why not let her be in pain and let her vent rather that insult her and insinuate that she is responsible for being cheated on? nah, you couldn't let her vent, you had to stick that needle in there somewhere. Now if she was asking for your opinion on the matter, you probably wouldn't have been viewed as such. but she didn't ask, again, she was venting. so why not let her vent? This is why I stay out of the OW/OM forum. let them spew their s##t over their all they want.
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