Is she stringning me along (ex wife)

[Conscience]

Hi I'm new to this board but I've been following it for some time now.

 

My wife and I separated back in January she had an affair with someone long distance I've decided to put this behind me. When we seperated I moved out of the house and she had asked me to come back and I did for one week, at the time i was running away almost every night and she was freaking out trying to hold me back untill I decided that I wasen't able to stay and I left for good, the next day I reallized I had made a mistake and text her I was sorry for leaving but the next day she was fed up of me leaving every day at that point she said to me it was over. At that point I went into NC and moved in with a friend. A Couple of months passed and she started texting me again! From that point on she invited me for dinner at the house and that didn't work too well we decided that it was to quick and that it would be preferable to meet somewhere neutral. After she invited me for lunch, from that point we did a couple of lunches, dinners and some activities and that went well I felt there where some improvement and a lot of eye contact especially the last time we went out. The thing is that I'm still getting no kisses or any signs of affection what so ever at this point! Our house is sold and where moving out separately she says things like lets go out and see... or lets go out no commitment or promises .... Just a couple weeks ago she was still texting and talking to the guy she had an affair with she says she doesn't talk to him anymore since we decided that we would work on our relationship... I guess I'm an impatient guy and I want it to be back like it was before! How long will it take before she opens up to me emotionally??? Obviously I get the odd insecure things I do like ask her questions or look for proof that she's still talking to this guy but I try to control myself and stay cool .... I don't know if I'm just too available to her and that's why she doesn't connect with me emotionally ??? I did everything I was suppose to loose weight get back in shape, new hair cut re established social network I started dating etc I have a very busy schedule , gym, dance classes, jogging, climbing to name a few

 

Help I want this to work but not sure how to act with her anymore.... she's hot and cold sometimes nice sometimes she doesn't care.... every time she feels im pulling away she comes back full force etc