deadhead88 Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 Hello all. I apologize in advance for the length amount of detail. I will try and make this as short possible. Please try and read if you can. So this girl who sometimes visits my college because she graduated last year friend requested me on fb around 2 months ago. Th only time I had to said anything to her prior was one random weekend a few weeks before. Anyway, we start talking a lot on fb and flirting, ( or at least as much as you can do on fb.) She eventually mentioned how she was going to visit again and that we should hang out. The weekend comes and the first night after hanging out and talking, we end up hanging out alone and drinking late at night in the place where she is crashing. Throughout the whole night she was being very personal and talkative to me about her life and asking me about mine. We eventually wind up in the bed she's sleeping in. She tells me that I can't sleep with jeans on so I take them off. When we get under the covers, she denies my kiss but wants to spoon and cuddle. I kiss her neck a few times while spooing and she smiles and enjoys it but still no real kiss. The next morning she is being verly flirty and talkative. She puts her leg and arm across me and rests her head on my chest. Fast forward to the next night it winds up being me, her, and my friend and his girl staying up late and drinking. She keeps putter he legs over mine and we both have more conversations about our personal life. She keeps saying how I shouldn't go to bed and that she is going to keep me up all night. Wind up in her bed again and when I try a move she says not tonight. Next morning she cuddles with me the same way as before only this time she also plays with my fingers and hair. She also lays on top of me and straddles me. But still no kiss. I've heard stories about how she was easy. So i'm wondering am I already friend zoned even though this was the first actual time we hung out and talked in person? Is she just leading me on? Does she feel some kind of attraction or closeness? Am I just some kind of cuddle buddy even though it was the first weekend we ever hung out and talked? Does this mean we will probably never hook up and or have some sort of relationship? I have a bit of a crush on this girl which is why I reciprocated the cuddling and intimacy. Please help me! I'll really appreciate it guys!
Author deadhead88 Posted April 20, 2011 Author Posted April 20, 2011 If I could please get some opinions guys. I really just need to know what's going through this girls head and where I stand with her, ie. friend, cuddle buddy, someone being used, being lead on, is she attracted to me?
Irishlove Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 Seems like she's thinking about it just not sure yet. She could be teasing you but will eventually give in. Stop touching her and make her want you. Play the game.
Enchanted Girl Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 I think she is very tempted to have sex with you, but is trying to hold back for awhile and do this right. I'm a woman and I know that if I give into kissing and sex and everything right away, the man is unlikely to still be there the next day.
Author deadhead88 Posted April 21, 2011 Author Posted April 21, 2011 Thanks for the replies. So you guys think she's interested or attracted and might possibly want to hook uo? I want to know if I should ever try and make a move on her again. Should I just keep it cool and see what happens?
johan Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 It could be anything. Any easy answers you get are more likely to be wrong than right. I just think you shouldn't focus on her too much. Keep it alive if you want. But make sure you aren't hoping for too much. Make sure most of your attention is on something else. There's more of a chance that nothing will happen than there is that something great will happen. Women are hard to figure out.
Author deadhead88 Posted April 21, 2011 Author Posted April 21, 2011 Thanks for the reply. I'm not going to get my hopes up as I know something may not happen. However I wouldn't say nothing will ever happen either because like you said it could mean anything. I'm just going to keep talking to her because I enjoy it and she's a cool girl, and not worry whether or nor something happens. If it does, great. If not, then whatever. Just wanted to get some perspective. I know the only person that really knows is her.
smudge21 Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 If there's been a reputation going around, maybe it isn't true and she's aware of it so trying to show you it isn't true. Maybe it is true but she likes you more than anyone else and wants to have something more than a casual relationship. Maybe she's seeing someone else for sex and just sees you for the close intimacy and cuddles. Maybe she's a cybnetic alien from another world sent to harvest your organs and can only do it whilst spooning... Basically you don't know, none of us do. All I can suggest is you play the game and enjoy it. The build up can often be so exciting, so make the most of it. Be a little off with her, maybe even not stay over one night. Just try not to get too involved emotionally just yet (easier said then done I know).
Author deadhead88 Posted April 21, 2011 Author Posted April 21, 2011 Thanks for the reply. She's been messaging me a lot and asking me if i miss her and calling me cutie and stuff. I'm not going to jump to any conclusions and just just keep it cool and see what happens.
Enchanted Girl Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Thanks for the reply. She's been messaging me a lot and asking me if i miss her and calling me cutie and stuff. I'm not going to jump to any conclusions and just just keep it cool and see what happens. Just know that girls don't usually have sex right away, so this isn't actually unusual.
iJester Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Sounds like a classic tease to me. It's one thing if she doesn't want to have sex right away, but to drag you to bed and then deny you so much as a kiss, just screams attention whore/tease. Next time she does this, get up out of bed, tell her you're tired of her leading you on, and leave.
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