irc333 Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 I was reading another thread, and it spawned this one. When you get (if any exists) a "vibe" from an online dating profile, do you take a look at the pics, and read the profile and kind of "blend" them together for a vibe? For instance, I saw this woman with about 4 or 5 pictures...she didn't have a pleasant smile or wasn't smiling at all in any of them. Some even had "smirks", which indicated to me she's probably mouthy and/or cocky. And usually eve sometimes even see it in the write-up of the profile. Someone mentioned also soemthing about pictures of them with their arms around another gender at a party or nightclub. Instant turn off for some, liek they're trying to brag to the world on how popular OFF-line they are. Anyone?
zengirl Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 I don't analyze it that much (not consciously, at least). The vibe is just evident, as I read, and glance at the pictures.
Disillusioned Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 The only vibe I get from them is that the person isn't serious about much of anything.
OliveOyl Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 I get a "vibe" from a profile, which includes the pictures. That vibe may or may not be the same vibe I get from someone's messages. Which may or may not be the same vibe I get from chatting with someone online. Which may or may not be the same vibe I get from them in person. However, I look for a positive vibe in all methods of interaction.
daphne Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 There's definitely a vibe to the profile and photos. This helps me eliminate guys who are not my cup of tea. For me, it's usually redneck, new age flake, player, guy trying too hard to look like a player, angry guy... the list is longer but those seem to be the trends I keep seeing. It's less common to run across what I'm looking for. Non metrosexual, conservative, down to earth and upbeat. I feel pretty fortunate that I've gotten a lot of commentary about my profile coming across as very genuine and down to earth. Cos that's what I'm looking for too.
Cee Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 I'd get a vibe off a profile and usually be completely wrong. One guy came across as too scholarly. He was attractive and struck me as intelligent so I took a chance. Turned out he was 45 year old adolescent, who wanted as much sex, weed, an alcohol as he could get. But yeah, he was pretty damned smart. One guy's picture didn't attract me at all. But we had things in common so I gave it a shot. Turned out he was unbelievably sexy and good natured, but photographs couldn't capture it. He turned out to be a great guy, but not looking for anything but sex. Another guy was blah, blah, blah, but he was looking for sex. Another guy was yadda, yadda, yadda...sex...yadda. IME, vibe means nothing. Nothing at all.
daphne Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Another guy was blah, blah, blah, but he was looking for sex. Another guy was yadda, yadda, yadda...sex...yadda. IME, vibe means nothing. Nothing at all. So wait. Are you trying to say all of the guys just want sex online? :lmao: And how does this differ from real life?
zengirl Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 I'd get a vibe off a profile and usually be completely wrong. One guy came across as too scholarly. He was attractive and struck me as intelligent so I took a chance. Turned out he was 45 year old adolescent, who wanted as much sex, weed, an alcohol as he could get. But yeah, he was pretty damned smart. One guy's picture didn't attract me at all. But we had things in common so I gave it a shot. Turned out he was unbelievably sexy and good natured, but photographs couldn't capture it. He turned out to be a great guy, but not looking for anything but sex. Another guy was blah, blah, blah, but he was looking for sex. Another guy was yadda, yadda, yadda...sex...yadda. IME, vibe means nothing. Nothing at all. Weird. You know, I've never really talked with/met a guy online who was just after sex. I always assumed I would meet one who covered it well, but no. Not that I know of. (I mean, I've gotten crazy lewd first messages I just deleted.) But I think it's because my profile guilts them out of it because I'm so straightforward about what I want and what I don't (this is a theory posited by a male friend. . . who basically doesn't do relationships, just sex . . . so not sure I agree or not).
ChessPieceFace Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 When you get a "vibe" from an online dating profile, do you take a look at the pics, and read the profile and kind of "blend" them together for a vibe? Not really sure what the question is. "Do you look at both pictures and text and then get a vibe about a person" --- umm, yes? Maybe I'm missing something. What would the alternative be? Only looking at pics (shallow) or only looking at text? Only looking at text would be kind of noble I guess, but maybe not really beneficial. For instance, I saw this woman with about 4 or 5 pictures...she didn't have a pleasant smile or wasn't smiling at all in any of them. Some even had "smirks", which indicated to me she's probably mouthy and/or cocky I have a hard time smiling also, unless I'm expressing amusement. When I feel I am supposed to smile for a picture sometimes I smirk as well, as my best compromise between smiling and not smiling. It could mean she's emotionally closed-in or shy, like I am. The mouthy & cocky people I know IRL don't have any problem smiling big smiles in pictures. Someone mentioned also soemthing about pictures of them with their arms around another gender at a party or nightclub. Instant turn off for some, liek they're trying to brag to the world on how popular OFF-line they are. Sure, you could get all kinds of cues from people's behavior and also in what kinds of pics they put up which they think represent them. That's probably a better way to use the pics than just looking at someone's attractiveness.
jane100 Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 I'd get a vibe off a profile and usually be completely wrong. One guy came across as too scholarly. He was attractive and struck me as intelligent so I took a chance. Turned out he was 45 year old adolescent, who wanted as much sex, weed, an alcohol as he could get. But yeah, he was pretty damned smart. One guy's picture didn't attract me at all. But we had things in common so I gave it a shot. Turned out he was unbelievably sexy and good natured, but photographs couldn't capture it. He turned out to be a great guy, but not looking for anything but sex. Another guy was blah, blah, blah, but he was looking for sex. Another guy was yadda, yadda, yadda...sex...yadda. IME, vibe means nothing. Nothing at all. Highly amusing Cee. And somewhat true. I need to get more practice though before I can say for sure. And practice makes perfect. The last guy I got a vibe from seemed conservative, charming, intelligent, sexy. Um .... he turned out to have a personality disorder (NPD).
orangelady Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 So wait. Are you trying to say all of the guys just want sex online? :lmao: And how does this differ from real life? It doesn't. But most online guys are after sex.
daphne Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 Um .... he turned out to have a personality disorder (NPD). Did he tell you that? Or you just figured it out. I guess I've been pretty lucky and haven't had guys try to push the sex card with me. One guy was hinting after our first meeting. But he knew better than to be overt or pushy about it. I think my profile is pretty straight forward about that. Old fashioned == you're not getting laid til I have a ring on my finger. :lmao:
Illiandra Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 interesting. i believe both males and females want the physical sex part. guys are just more quick to want it. ive met up with a few from online dating site and i have also been up front with my expectations of getting to know me and progress naturally. it makes ya wonder? are these guys meeting chicks who put out after date 1 or date 2... or are these chicks sending the guys perverted messages and the guys just assume all girls on online sites are easy? ughhh online dating blows!
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