Is there a slight chance this plan would work?

[anne1707]

I have a part time job already. Btw like I said the other day the teacher emailed me about something class related. In the reply since my last project is on my favorite sports team, I asked her if she likes any sports. Is small talk like that good?

 

Again you are overstepping boundaries by trying to engage her in non-course work conversation. You are proving time and time again that you lack the ability to recognise that someone has no interest whatsoever in you in a personal way. Stop harassing this woman.

[one goal]

Again you are overstepping boundaries by trying to engage her in non-course work conversation. You are proving time and time again that you lack the ability to recognise that someone has no interest whatsoever in you in a personal way. Stop harassing this woman.

 

How is asking a simple, short question harassing? Here is what I asked. How do you think she felt when reading it?

 

I never asked, but are you into sports? You seem more of a baseball kind of gal.

[anne1707]

Head......brick......wall.......

[one goal]

Again you are overstepping boundaries by trying to engage her in non-course work conversation. You are proving time and time again that you lack the ability to recognise that someone has no interest whatsoever in you in a personal way. Stop harassing this woman.

 

But what is wrong with asking a simple question like that?

[Jazzari]

How is asking a simple, short question harassing?

When its asked over and over and you don't accept the answer.

 

You never answered me before, but I'll ask again. What exactly does she have to say to make you understand that she does not want contact with you and does not appreciate your continued attention?

[NoMagicBullet]

Because you are asking for personal information! What sports she likes has nothing to do with your course and it's none of your business! Stop this! It's creepy!

[one goal]

Because you are asking for personal information! What sports she likes has nothing to do with your course and it's none of your business! Stop this! It's creepy!

 

How do you think she felt when reading the question about what sports she likes?

[NoMagicBullet]

Creeped out! Uncomfortable! Frustrated that you keep trying to cross the professional boundary between student and teacher!

[cerridwen]

How do you think she felt when reading the question about what sports she likes?

 

What's your record for continuous posting of (dubious) one sentence questions?

It's actually pretty hilarious how you can get so many responses.

 

Doh! Guilty.

[one goal]

Creeped out! Uncomfortable! Frustrated that you keep trying to cross the professional boundary between student and teacher!

 

If so then why does she have other students on her facebook page? So why can they cross the boundary, but I can't?

[kiss_andmakeup]

If so then why does she have other students on her facebook page? So why can they cross the boundary, but I can't?

 

Probably because they never asked her out on a date! Or because she simply can't stand you, whether as a friend or a potential romantic interest! SHE DOES NOT LIKE YOU. SHE MOST LIKELY FINDS YOU DESPERATE AND CREEPY AND WISHES YOU WOULD JUST LEAVE HER ALONE!

[Lorelei_Lane]

If so then why does she have other students on her facebook page? So why can they cross the boundary, but I can't?

 

Because you're a creepy guy with a sick obsession that needs HELP!

[NoMagicBullet]

I found this, posted in another thread, enlightening and frightening:

 

Because in your case the woman wasn't interested.

 

You have to bear in mind the way many of the people here think, in general and not just about situations of a teacher and a student.

 

If a man comes onto a woman in any way at all... and she is interested then he's a player and a great wonderful guy who should be emmulated.

 

While if another man comes onto a woman and she's not interested in his advances then he's a creepy, stalkerish, perverted potential child molester ... etc. You get the idea.

 

If you had did what you did and the teacher had accepted your advances and screwed your brains out you would be a god. Since she rejected you people feel a need to jump on the dog pile and shame you a bit more.

 

 

Agree. In a way its partially the teachers fault because she's single and wouldn't give me a chance, plus she ignores me sometimes and is snappy at times now at me. It's not fair how she judged me like this thinking I'm a bad guy.

 

None of this is your teacher's fault. People aren't jumping on you because you were rejected, they're jumping on you because you will not back off after being rejected. You are becoming a stalker, and if you continue to cross the line between student and teacher, the odds are very good that you'll find yourself in front of a dean, department head, police officer, and/or judge, telling you to stay away from her and to never contact her.

 

If I was your teacher, I would have already asked my superiors about moving you out of my class and into someone else's.

[one goal]

Probably because they never asked her out on a date! Or because she simply can't stand you, whether as a friend or a potential romantic interest! SHE DOES NOT LIKE YOU. SHE MOST LIKELY FINDS YOU DESPERATE AND CREEPY AND WISHES YOU WOULD JUST LEAVE HER ALONE!

 

Why didn't she just tell me to F*uck off then and tell me she's repulsed by me, and hates me? I'd feel much better at least knowing she hates me. As do all girls whenever I show interest.

[Hules]

Why didn't she just tell me to F*uck off then and tell me she's repulsed by me, and hates me? I'd feel much better at least knowing she hates me. As do all girls whenever I show interest.

 

Because women don't work like that, take a ****ing hint, my god were you dropped on your head as a child seriously? btw great trolling I give you 9/10.

[whichwayisup]

Now why would she get a restraining order for just asking her if she wants to go out to eat?

 

What do you expect her to tell me?

 

Because she, in her own words and actions, her behaviour, her demenear around you has shown she has absolutely NO interest in a friendship, casual or otherwise. She ignores anything personal with you and only wants communication to be about school work, homework, questions relating to class. She has turned down and ignored your interests and questions about her personal life.

 

Because it seems you can't take no for answer. After everything that has happened in the last week or so, you STILL have this hope that she's going to say YES if you ask her out at the end of the school year.

 

Where's your pride and ego? How many times do you have to be rejected by her before you see eventually it's going to BOTHER her that you won't leave her alone?

 

Maybe it won't come to a restraining order, but she certainly is going to wonder if there is something wrong with you, that you keep pestering her and she's so far shown you she doesn't like you that way. Doesn't want to go out, at all, with you. Please, accept that and respect her by leaving this alone.

[whichwayisup]

Why didn't she just tell me to F*uck off then and tell me she's repulsed by me, and hates me? I'd feel much better at least knowing she hates me. As do all girls whenever I show interest.

 

Because she is your teacher and you are her student. Because if she said that to you, she would be suspended, or possibly fired. She wouldn't say that because she is professional.

 

She doesn't HATE you, but the more you push yourself onto her, try to edge closer into her life, she may eventually hate you by it'll by your own doing.

 

If all girls feel this way towards you at some point, then it's time to get to therapy and figure out what you are doing wrong and change your ways. Something is happening that's putting them off, whether it be you come on too strong or you're too intense, trying too hard, I don't know. But, you need to figure it out OG.

[kiss_andmakeup]

Why didn't she just tell me to F*uck off then and tell me she's repulsed by me, and hates me? I'd feel much better at least knowing she hates me. As do all girls whenever I show interest.

 

Because she's your teacher and needed to remain professional, and probably thought that since you're a full grown adult you might be able to take a hint!!!!

[one goal]

Because she, in her own words and actions, her behaviour, her demenear around you has shown she has absolutely NO interest in a friendship, casual or otherwise. She ignores anything personal with you and only wants communication to be about school work, homework, questions relating to class. She has turned down and ignored your interests and questions about her personal life.

 

Because it seems you can't take no for answer. After everything that has happened in the last week or so, you STILL have this hope that she's going to say YES if you ask her out at the end of the school year.

 

Where's your pride and ego? How many times do you have to be rejected by her before you see eventually it's going to BOTHER her that you won't leave her alone?

 

Maybe it won't come to a restraining order, but she certainly is going to wonder if there is something wrong with you, that you keep pestering her and she's so far shown you she doesn't like you that way. Doesn't want to go out, at all, with you. Please, accept that and respect her by leaving this alone.

 

I'm like the Chicago Cubs when it comes to dating.

 

I think the facebook friend request was her signal. And the one day I asked her what was wrong when she kept mentioning her personal issues when she walked away from me.

 

So I'm trying to trace back to what was wrong. Could it been that I waited until two months into the semester to ask her out? I wonder should I have tried talking to her more before I asked her out? Maybe it was too much at once.

[cerridwen]

Could it been that I waited until two months into the semester to ask her out?

 

Hm. Could it be?

 

I wonder should I have tried talking to her more before I asked her out?

Maybe. Should you have?

[Jazzari]

I think you should start obsessing about someone else. Maybe mix it up a bit and pick a guy this time. That should be entertaining.

 

This one is way played out and getting boring.

[one goal]

Hm. Could it be?

 

Maybe. Should you have?

 

I didn't want to come off too pushy. I think I should have talked to her more leading up to asking her out.

 

The Facebook thing hurt my feelings though when she told me she wouldn't approve me. Just by being that blunt to my face about it, then she walked away from me.

[Jazzari]

The Facebook thing hurt my feelings though when she told me she wouldn't approve me. Just by being that blunt to my face about it, then she walked away from me.

And yet you cry that women are too subtle.

[one goal]

And yet you cry that women are too subtle.

 

Well at that point I pretty much understood she wont date me. I still want to be just friends with her cause she seems like she can be a nice person. She does come off as shy though. I mean in class she seems shy and doesn't talk a whole lot.

 

Also she has a hot sister.

[Cee]

Also she has a hot sister.

 

Do tell. Can we move on to Chapter 2 of this nowhere story. Could you make the teacher's sister her daughter instead. And name her Elaine. And you two ride off in the sunset on the back of a bus.

 

Oh wait, that story's been told already.