Is there a slight chance this plan would work?

[one goal]

You have a better chance of winning the lottery, getting struck by lightning, and spontaneously combusting, all on the same day, than getting her to go anywhere with you.

 

Putting myself in her shoes, I'd be extremely wary of you and would consider filing a restraining order against you if you continued contacting me. Guys like you are the type to suddenly snap and decide exactly what somedude posted, "If I can't have her nobody will."

 

I remember you from your posts back in your Katharine McPhee days, and this singling out one woman and obsessing endlessly over her is a definite pattern for you. Seek psychological help.

 

I done nothing to her to require a restraining order. I don't harass her. I'd never do anything like that.

 

I don't have a girlfriend, she's the only other hot chick in class, and the only single one, and really the only interacting I have with a cute girl right now.

[kiss_andmakeup]

I done nothing to her to require a restraining order. I don't harass her. I'd never do anything like that.

 

I don't have a girlfriend, she's the only other hot chick in class, and the only single one, and really the only interacting I have with a cute girl right now.

 

Continuing to contact her or ask her out when she has explicitly asked you not to can be considered harassment.

 

You might as well consider her married because she is no more available to you than the other taken girls in the class. She wants nothing to do with you. And your "interaction" with her is not of the positive kind. You're in the hole so to speak; it's not like you've developed some kind of friendly rapport with her. She likely considers you creepy, pathetic, desperate, immature, and foolish.

[one goal]

Continuing to contact her or ask her out when she has explicitly asked you not to can be considered harassment.

 

You might as well consider her married because she is no more available to you than the other taken girls in the class. She wants nothing to do with you. And your "interaction" with her is not of the positive kind. You're in the hole so to speak; it's not like you've developed some kind of friendly rapport with her. She likely considers you creepy, pathetic, desperate, immature, and foolish.

 

She didn't say not to contact her, just said she wants to move forward.

 

I'm still trying to figure out what I did wrong the first time I ever asked her out, and why she rejected me.

 

She's friends with other students, so why doesn't she want to be my friend as well?

[Cee]

I can't wait till the semester is over. This story is boring.

[NoMagicBullet]

She didn't say not to contact her, just said she wants to move forward.

 

I'm still trying to figure out what I did wrong the first time I ever asked her out, and why she rejected me.

 

She's friends with other students, so why doesn't she want to be my friend as well?

 

"Wants to move forward" = I am your teacher, I'll be your teacher for this class, and do not contact me for any reason whatsoever that doesn't directly deal with your work in this class.

 

You don't have to do anything wrong to be rejected. Maybe you did everything right. The fact is, she is not interested. That is why you were rejected.

 

She's undoubtedly aware of your interest in her, so she's keeping you at a distance. She knows befriending you might give you hope for something more in the future (because too many guys will accept a friend position while trying to get into a woman's pants), and she does not want to lead you on in any way. She is not interested in you romantically.

 

Don't ask her out. Things will not play out like you hope they will. And I know you have a fantasy of how things might play out. Everyone does when they are as infatuated with someone as you are with her.

[EasyHeart]

You have a better chance of winning the lottery, getting struck by lightning, and spontaneously combusting, all on the same day, than getting her to go anywhere with you.

 

Putting myself in her shoes, I'd be extremely wary of you and would consider filing a restraining order against you if you continued contacting me. Guys like you are the type to suddenly snap and decide exactly what somedude posted, "If I can't have her nobody will."

Print out this post, tape it to your refrigerator, and read it at least 200 times a day.

 

If you are real, you have gone from pathetic to funny to scary. LEAVE THIS POOR WOMAN ALONE!!!!

[one goal]

"Wants to move forward" = I am your teacher, I'll be your teacher for this class, and do not contact me for any reason whatsoever that doesn't directly deal with your work in this class.

 

You don't have to do anything wrong to be rejected. Maybe you did everything right. The fact is, she is not interested. That is why you were rejected.

 

She's undoubtedly aware of your interest in her, so she's keeping you at a distance. She knows befriending you might give you hope for something more in the future (because too many guys will accept a friend position while trying to get into a woman's pants), and she does not want to lead you on in any way. She is not interested in you romantically.

 

Don't ask her out. Things will not play out like you hope they will. And I know you have a fantasy of how things might play out. Everyone does when they are as infatuated with someone as you are with her.

 

I respect her decision for not wanting to go out with me. If I would have waited until the end of the semester and offered to take her out to dinner during the summer would there have been a better chance maybe?

 

But if I just want to be friends with her, why can't she accept that? If it's not in a romantic way, why wont she accept it as well?

 

I don't hate her.

 

I always get rejected. Why not for once can a girl at least be friends with me?

[Kamille]

I don't think you're a danger or that you will snap. I just think you're harming yourself by obsessing about someone who's not interested in you.

 

 

I don't have a girlfriend, she's the only other hot chick in class, and the only single one, and really the only interacting I have with a cute girl right now.

 

 

What's stopping you from interacting with cute girls your age?

[OldSkool]

path·o·log·i·cal

 

–adjective

 

1. of or pertaining to pathology.

 

2. caused by or involving disease; morbid.

 

3. caused by or evidencing a mentally disturbed condition: a pathological liar.

 

4. dealing with diseases: a pathological casebook.

 

+

 

ob·ses·sion

 

–noun

 

1. the domination of one's thoughts or feelings by a persistent idea, image, desire, etc.

 

2. the idea, image, desire, feeling, etc., itself.

 

3. the state of being obsessed.

 

4. the act of obsessing.

[one goal's mother]

path·o·log·i·cal

 

–adjective

 

1. of or pertaining to pathology.

 

2. caused by or involving disease; morbid.

 

3. caused by or evidencing a mentally disturbed condition: a pathological liar.

 

4. dealing with diseases: a pathological casebook.

 

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ob·ses·sion

 

–noun

 

1. the domination of one's thoughts or feelings by a persistent idea, image, desire, etc.

 

2. the idea, image, desire, feeling, etc., itself.

 

3. the state of being obsessed.

 

4. the act of obsessing.

 

That's very kind of you, but he doesn't really understand words with more than two syllables.

[tman666]

Do this dance outside her window with a boombox playing this song:

 

 

*WARNING: Not safe for work or children

[dreamingoftigers]

That song is also incredibly useful if you want to panhandle outside of a bar in Thunder Bay, Ontario just for the record.

 

Hey, tman, what's up?

[tman666]

Hey DoT! Just jammin' to some Eric Prydz, like a boss.

[cerridwen]

That song is also incredibly useful if you want to panhandle outside of a bar in Thunder Bay, Ontario just for the record.

 

Hey, tman, what's up?

 

Interesting. I always had better luck with Bridge Over Troubled Water

[anne1707]

I respect her decision for not wanting to go out with me.

 

Err, no you don't. Otherwise you would not have started yet another thread about this woman. By the way you should realise that women, as opposed to girls, object to being called "chicks"

[NoMagicBullet]

See my responses in bold:

 

I respect her decision for not wanting to go out with me. If I would have waited until the end of the semester and offered to take her out to dinner during the summer would there have been a better chance maybe?

 

Not necessarily. There may be lots of reasons she wouldn't go out with you. Her not being interested would be a major one. Likely it would have made no difference.

 

But if I just want to be friends with her, why can't she accept that? If it's not in a romantic way, why wont she accept it as well?

 

You've already made your interest in her clear, so she does not believe you "just want to be friends". I'm going to be harsh here, but I don't believe you want to "just want to be friends", nor do I think most other LS members believe it either. I think you are lying, maybe to yourself first, when you say "I just want to be friends with her."

 

I don't hate her.

 

Why would you hate her? Even if you did, it's irrelevant.

 

I always get rejected. Why not for once can a girl at least be friends with me?

 

Why does she or any female -- or any male, for that matter -- owe it to you to be your friend? People are friends because both parties enjoy being friends, not because either one is entitled to have friends. She does not want to be friends with you, end of story.

 

Here's a question -- are you really approaching women to be friends or with ulterior motives of romance/relationship/sex/FWB/whatever else? When was the last time you started talking with a girl you were not attracted to as a date or lover, but thought you could be platonic friends with?

 

Sometimes people can be friends with those they've asked out or have dated or even lived with, but that's not always the case. For you -- I think it would help you to keep friends and potential dates entirely separate. After a rejection, you need to be able to walk away, and you aren't doing that now.

 

[one goal]

Err, no you don't. Otherwise you would not have started yet another thread about this woman. By the way you should realise that women, as opposed to girls, object to being called "chicks"

 

When talking to her, I NEVER called her a chick. Always use girl, or lady.

 

Like here is a email last week, when I admitted to her basically that it was bad asking her out during the semester.

 

You're a lovely lady, but as I said your older than me and I should stick to girls closer to my age and not the teacher.

[tman666]

When talking to her, I NEVER called her a chick. Always use girl, or lady.

 

Like here is a email last week, when I admitted to her basically that it was bad asking her out during the semester.

 

Broseph, if you're going to have ANY shot with your teacher, you need to make sure that you use the proper "you're" in your emails. Teachers are all about that kind of shizz.

 

Also, telling her that she's "too old" for you might not be the most optimal way to get her loins quivering.

[one goal]

Broseph, if you're going to have ANY shot with your teacher, you need to make sure that you use the proper "you're" in your emails. Teachers are all about that kind of shizz.

 

Also, telling her that she's "too old" for you might not be the most optimal way to get her loins quivering.

 

True. After thinking about it, might have not been the best thing to say she's too old for me. She is like 12 years older though.

[Kamille]

One Goal, I notice you haven't answered my question:

 

What' stopping you from interacting with girls?

[one goal]

One Goal, I notice you haven't answered my question:

 

What' stopping you from interacting with girls?

 

There is nowhere else to meet them other than school.

[Kamille]

There is nowhere else to meet them other than school.

 

Ok. Then what's stopping you from

1) Approaching girls at school

2) Joining a group activity where you could meet more girls (Like an ultimate frisbee league).

[one goal]

Ok. Then what's stopping you from

1) Approaching girls at school

2) Joining a group activity where you could meet more girls (Like an ultimate frisbee league).

 

Well I'm going to a university in the fall. I'll be going full time and might be working on campus a couple days a week.

 

Will it be easier meeting women in their 20s this way?

[Kamille]

Well I'm going to a university in the fall. I'll be going full time and might be working on campus a couple days a week.

 

Will it be easier meeting women in their 20s this way?

 

In the Fall? What about now? Don't you want to start meeting girls now?

 

What about getting a summer job?

[one goal]

In the Fall? What about now? Don't you want to start meeting girls now?

 

What about getting a summer job?

 

I have a part time job already. Btw like I said the other day the teacher emailed me about something class related. In the reply since my last project is on my favorite sports team, I asked her if she likes any sports. Is small talk like that good?

 

I never asked, but are you into sports? You seem more of a baseball kind of gal.