meee Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 Me and my ex girlfriend are both 19yrs old and we dated for 25 months before we broke up. it seemed like she wanted to break up with me because she would say things like she wants to go to the club, she wants to go do her own things, she wanted to go smoke, drink, and party. she wasn't that type of girl when we met, but i guess since we started going to college, she became curious and wanted to do those things. i told her that she could either have me, or her "college experience". we took a break for a week for her to think it over, and when we started talking again she told me that she had gone smoking, she went drinking, and to the club. she knows that i don't like when she does that and she did those things even AFTER i told her that she had a choice between me and her. so i decided to break up with her even though deep down i didn't want to. We still see each other on tues and thurs because we have the same class, and we talk to each other. now we talk as if we were friends. today she even insisted on working out with me at the gym, today was the first time that we hung out since the break up two weeks ago. i want to know what did i do wrong for her to stop being interested in me. we both know, and im not trying to be stuck up, we both know that i am extremely nice, i respect her, i have never cursed at her, never hit her, never disrespected her whatsoever. she has never done the same to me neither. so where did i go wrong? how do i fix this? i know that she still wants to be with me because of the way she acts around me, but she ALSO wants to have the "college experience". and i personally could do without all the partying, smoking, etc. how do we compromise? and how do i approach her about this? we currently just talk in class but that's it. i don't want her to think that i am desperate, but i also want to let her know how i feel.
lemonlegs Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 Well, she made it abundantly clear that she chose the "college experience" over being in a long-term relationship. You guys dated for over 2 years and entered college, perhaps she just wants to experience things that she couldn't while having a boyfriend. As much as it hurts, these things sometimes happen. However, I wouldn't allow yourself to be a doormat. If she demands that you hang out with her, don't. She's not a top priority in your life anymore and you don't owe her anything. If you can be friendly with her, that's fine, but I don't think it'll help you get over her. Don't be flat out rude to her, but also don't go out of your way to speak to her. It will not be help you move on.
windows Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 Silence begets silence. The pink elephant is moving away anytime soon. Have you been completely clear about how you felt with her?
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