AD1980 Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Right. I act no differently than I did when I was in high school. Only difference is I'm about 6 inches taller, more muscular, and my looks matured. Nothing else has changed. lol some women cant admit looks are hugely important to them
Darren Taylor Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 lol some women cant admit looks are hugely important to them Not only that, I'm still shy. One thing I've also noticed is how members of both genders act around me. Even other guys are nicer to me now than before.
somedude81 Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 I had a friend in high school that was very pretty. I was so jealous of her, but no guy ever noticed her. She had never had a boyfriend. She had no game. It was rather ridiculous since she had a very curvy body (good kind of curvy, not fat kind), long pretty black hair, large brown eyes and full lips. But she was shy and very conservative sexually. If a girl is shy, most men will assume that she is not interested and/or she has a boyfriend. Even then, I bet there were guys that did ask her out. Not a lot but it did happen. And she turned them down.
zengirl Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 LOL, no. I can do that. The most important part was this And that's what game is. I'm funny on occasion, but nobody would ever call me charming. Probably because you're (sorry to put this so bluntly) coming across as desperate, which is also a problem with women, as Enchanted Girl says. All one really needs to do is what Woggle said: I never used game to get a woman. I just simply talk to them and for the most part it actually worked. Even if I didn't get a date I almost never got a nasty response. I think that IS game, Woggle. (Not as in playing games with them, mind you.) Now, if you go up to someone, get the courage to talk to them, and desperately try to impress them because you REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY NEED A DATE, most non-desperate people (the people that others go up to) are not going to find you terribly attractive.
Darren Taylor Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 If a girl is shy, most men will assume that she is not interested and/or she has a boyfriend. Or stuck up.
somedude81 Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 The thing is, I don't act desperate or needy at all. None of the girls I know would ever say that about me. Five years ago, it would be entirely different. BTW Zengirl, is a man talking to you and having a conversation, enough for you to become attracted to him?
musemaj11 Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Girls do have to have game. Guys just don't realize that they always go for the girls who act a certain way and not even notice the girls that don't. Perhaps you are right. Both men and women are attracted to confidence. When you pretty but quiet and always sitting alone in the corner, you project a negative image of yourself to others as if there is something wrong with you.
zengirl Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 The thing is, I don't act desperate or needy at all. None of the girls I know would ever say that about me. Five years ago, it would be entirely different. BTW Zengirl, is a man talking to you and having a conversation, enough for you to become attracted to him? Attracted enough to go on a date? Sure. I've agreed to dates after first conversations. Aren't you in a college setting? As I said, it's different there. In college, when I were a lot younger (Granted, I was 20 when I graduated, and my HS sweetheart died when I was 18 and we were both sophomores in college, so my college years were a bit odd and stunted, dating-wise), it took more, probably, as I didn't trust my judgment as much.
somedude81 Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 Attracted enough to go on a date? Sure. I've agreed to dates after first conversations. Aren't you in a college setting? As I said, it's different there. In college, when I were a lot younger (Granted, I was 20 when I graduated, and my HS sweetheart died when I was 18 and we were both sophomores in college, so my college years were a bit odd and stunted, dating-wise), it took more, probably, as I didn't trust my judgment as much. So if I randomly walked up to you in the super market. Had a conversation about cereal and nothing else. Then asked you out, you would go out with me? Do you see what point I'm trying to get across?
J200 Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 I never used game to get a woman. I just simply talk to them and for the most part it actually worked. Even if I didn't get a date I almost never got a nasty response. Ummm, that is game... Are you aware of how difficult it is for some people to just be able to make conversation? There are even a lot of women that can't do this. A lot of introverted and shy people wish they knew how to talk; that is called "having game". Not playing games but having it. It's a skill that I don't have since I am introverted. I can't make female friends or talk to females either (and I'm a girl) let alone to guys.
somedude81 Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 I forget to mention that it would just a conversation, no flirting, joking, not even that interesting.
Woggle Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 It's not game. Game is when you try to toy with another person and say some corny pick up line. I never do that and have never misrepresented myself at all. If I wanted to get a woman in bed as fast as possible and use her for sex I said it. It's not my fault they saw it as a challenge.
J200 Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 It's not game. Game is when you try to toy with another person and say some corny pick up line. I never do that and have never misrepresented myself at all. If I wanted to get a woman in bed as fast as possible and use her for sex I said it. It's not my fault they saw it as a challenge. Game is not always about misrepresentation. Knowing how to make normal conversation is "game" because it's a skill. The word "game" just means that you got "juice", you've got "skill", you've got "flavor" or the "X-factor", that something special. Skill to charm a woman by being yourself. I don't have the skill to talk to people because I am anti social.
Recommended Posts