Disillusioned Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 (edited) Aren't any of you afraid that when you're in your 60s or older, you'll be alone in the world and look around and regret having played games when you were in your 20s, 30s, 40s, or 50s? Have you thought about what it will be like to have no kids to help you out once in a while in your old age, or have no partner to sit and hold hands with---because you thought you were so slick by avoiding commitment when you were younger? What benefit did you get from it, besides cheap thrills? Sometimes I worry about those kinds of things, but in my case, I think it will be worth it, as long as women hold onto their mean-spiritedness. Who knows, maybe I'll do like Edward Abbey said, and outlive the bastards. Edited April 20, 2011 by Disillusioned
gaius Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 I'm not worried. There's no guarantee the kids you have will take on the responsibility of helping you anyways. Why don't you try dating a non mean-spirited woman?
Author Disillusioned Posted April 20, 2011 Author Posted April 20, 2011 Why don't you try dating a non mean-spirited woman? To be female is to be mean-spirited. Ain't no way around it.
WorldIsYours Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 I'm not worried. There's no guarantee the kids you have will take on the responsibility of helping you anyways. Right on.
AzaleaBelle Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 (edited) Aren't any of you afraid that when you're in your 60s or older, you'll be alone in the world and look around and regret having played games when you were in your 20s, 30s, 40s, or 50s? Have you thought about what it will be like to have no kids to help you out once in a while in your old age, or have no partner to sit and hold hands with---because you thought you were so slick by avoiding commitment when you were younger? What benefit did you get from it, besides cheap thrills? Sometimes I worry about those kinds of things, but in my case, I think it will be worth it, as long as women hold onto their mean-spiritedness. Who knows, maybe I'll do like Edward Abbey said, and outlive the bastards. I use to be of the "no marriage" "no kids" ME FOREVER mentality. My little brother is a gay man with no intention of marriage or children and we decided that we would get one of those old plantation homes in the country and live out our lives enjoying men and dodging commitment bullets left and right. Don't get me wrong, I liked exclusive relationships, as I wasn't a fan of whoring about, but I liked to change them up every year or so. I've had two proposals from men in my lifetime and never accepted. Just wasn't interested in the whole one man forever deal. After we couldn't lure men in anymore with our wit or looks, we would start a lovely garden and keep it up until we couldn't bend over anymore. At that point, I'd rather have my brother sitting beside me telling me to keep my old lady farts to myself rather than some old wrinkled-ball man trying to do my dusty vag. We have a HUGE very supportive family and we take care of each other, so I wasn't concerned about becoming a hopeless invalid. I can't tell you how many aunts and uncles I've set with / cooked diner for / played cards with over the course of my life. Seemed like a good life to me. Then I met my boyfriend and everything changed. Now, I'm fretting about whether or not HE wants to marry me. Sometimes I think its karma for all those men I lead on for months/years at a time. At times, I wish I could go back to how it was before, but my values have changed. My brother is disappointed. Anyway, at one point, I had it all figured out. NOW I KNOW NOTHING! Edited April 20, 2011 by AzaleaBelle
Author Disillusioned Posted April 20, 2011 Author Posted April 20, 2011 Sometimes I think its karma for all those men I lead on for months/years at a time. That's what this thread is about. BTW how will all those little old ladies feel decades from now, when they're unwanted by the world because thousands more men will have Realdolls?
AzaleaBelle Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 What do women do that makes them mean-spirited? I would say that one could accuse me of being a free spirit who doesn't like to be held down or back, but mean-spirited?
AzaleaBelle Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 That's what this thread is about. BTW how will all those little old ladies feel decades from now, when they're unwanted by the world because thousands more men will have Realdolls? I don't think that Realdolls will ever replace human companionship. I know that most of the women in my family over a certain age couldn't care less whether or not a man wanted them sexually. Hell, they would probably buy them one of those dolls so they would leave them alone. From what I can tell, they enjoy having the companionship of their life partner, but their lives are full of grandchildren, nieces, nephews, parties with their other old lady friends, church groups and all sorts of other activities I don't yet understand. As for the women who never married, hopefully they have a great family and someone to keep them company in their old age.
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 Who knows, maybe I'll do like Edward Abbey said, and outlive the bastards. I'm pretty sure it was Herbert Hoover who said that. Poor Herbert, he always got a bum rap.
Author Disillusioned Posted April 20, 2011 Author Posted April 20, 2011 What do women do that makes them mean-spirited? Experience has taught me that women not only get a kick out of withholding sex (and I can understand that, if you've got some poor addict begging on his kees for a sex fix), but also out of withholding affection. Now, who's going to accuse Experience of being a liar? As for the women who never married, hopefully they have a great family and someone to keep them company in their old age. I'm afraid today's game-players will have been going their own way too long for that. Talk about fooling oneself...
AzaleaBelle Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 I won't call you a liar because your experiences may have just been that unfortunate. I can't speak for the entire gender, but I don't know anyone who vindictively withholds affection. I have heard SOME women talk about withholding sex if their husband/partner is being a stubborn butthole or just downright mean but not just for the fun of it. I think you need to surround yourself with a better class of females. Game players have been going their own way too long for their family to care about what happens to them? When I said "someone to keep them company" I wasn't talking about a spouse/sexual partner. Talk about arrogance.
orangelady Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 Aren't any of you afraid that when you're in your 60s or older, you'll be alone in the world and look around and regret having played games when you were in your 20s, 30s, 40s, or 50s? Have you thought about what it will be like to have no kids to help you out once in a while in your old age, or have no partner to sit and hold hands with---because you thought you were so slick by avoiding commitment when you were younger? What benefit did you get from it, besides cheap thrills? Sometimes I worry about those kinds of things, but in my case, I think it will be worth it, as long as women hold onto their mean-spiritedness. Who knows, maybe I'll do like Edward Abbey said, and outlive the bastards. From your other posts, you seem to be really bitter about women. Maybe you have had bad experiences with women but do you think it's good to think they're mean and all that? Let me ask you this. Look around you and look at all the women. Have you tried asking every single available women out and get to know them? Maybe you are always going after women who are 'hot' and wondering why you get wounded? I don't know...
orangelady Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 To be female is to be mean-spirited. Ain't no way around it. Yeah, you'll definitely be alone. And its best women stay away from you too.
orangelady Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 We all die alone. Shame, but thats how it is. With that kind of attitude, of course you'll die alone.
orangelady Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 Better alone and with money, than without it and in the company of the bums . Non Risk takers don't go far in life. But whatever suits your fancy. Not my life.
AzaleaBelle Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 Most people aren't going to have that. Divorces, untimely death, and boredom are the norm. Shame, but thats how it is. Except for death being the norm, I disagree. I think if people make an honest effort in finding their mate, instead of just marrying to satiate societal norms, then the likelihood of a good life-long partnership increases. Not saying there won't be problems, of course there will be. But partners work through it. We lose sight of companionship when men and women pit themselves against each other. I think boredom creeps in when the spouses aren't allowed to have external lives. When one is always crammed up the other's butt. People need breathing room for Gods sake.
AzaleaBelle Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 (edited) People don't necessarily meet up out of nowhere and suddenly decide to get married. There are couples who really do known each other for little than one year or so, but there are many couples who have together for decades but end up breaking the relationship apart. They've invested so much in that relationship instead of doing it to the individual. Others are of the mind that they've spent too much time for now have the relationship end, and there are those who've grown to tolerate one another. I don't see people having the time or the resources to go out and search for years, or decades for that swan of a person. Human beings just don't mate for life, not most at least, and the occasional swan couple coming up, is completely obliterated in numbers by the men who are drunk, or by the women who are too much of a nag. As a guy who comes from a more conservative background, most of the people I've known as a kid and even now, are married for many decades already, but the men are spending their entire time in the 'pub', getting drunk, and the women are taking care of babies. So much for companionship. Thats what I am saying, people should look for their mate/companion instead of the relationship. People can mate for life and I've seen in done happily for the most part. I've also seen in done horribly, horribly wrong. From what I can tell, most of the people who aren't happy in their marriages didn't hold out for the right person. They married when they felt it was "time" because they thought they had to or got freaked out because they didn't want to die alone.. I haven't been here long, but I've noticed that people tend to gravitate toward generalizations about men and women and their relationship. Why not try to focus on your individual circumstances. All people are different and it isn't fair to assume that all, or even most, men are miserable and women are nags. If you want to be alone, thats fine. Like I said, I was of that mindset only a few years ago. But don't rationalize with generalizations. Edited April 20, 2011 by AzaleaBelle
Author Disillusioned Posted April 20, 2011 Author Posted April 20, 2011 From your other posts, you seem to be really bitter about women. Maybe you have had bad experiences with women but do you think it's good to think they're mean and all that? Let me ask you this. Look around you and look at all the women. Have you tried asking every single available women out and get to know them? Maybe you are always going after women who are 'hot' and wondering why you get wounded? I don't know... I've tested women, talked to them, picked their brains, watched how they behaved. There are no exceptions. That's why I don't waste time looking for a partner any more, because she doesn't exist. The "hot" women are the worst... they have NO sense of kindness. Yeah, you'll definitely be alone. And its best women stay away from you too. Yes, away from me and every other man who knows the difference between sex and love. Sorry, but it's not my loss.
orangelady Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 I've tested women, talked to them, picked their brains, watched how they behaved. And you just sum up the entire gender based on your little research there? lol...okay I think I can end here. Because I refuse to talk to irrational human beings. Yes, away from me and every other man who knows the difference between sex and love. Sorry, but it's not my loss. I'm glad you think that way but your post proves uncertainty. I think its funny how men act just the same as women do. Bitterness, drama, negativity, the whole gender bash - "Women are evil, men are angels"
AzaleaBelle Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 I don't generalize. I observe. To prevent myself from making any mistakes. I report what I see. What I read. And what I hear. Regardless of how compatible you can be with a person, and even if the person's name is written in the stars, right next to yours, by the gods themselves, you or the person can change and tremendous loss is had. If you are up to the risk, I have to congratulate you.That's something that I could never do, and the world does need brave soldiers. Good luck! I don't believe in fate. I think true mates balance each other out. Each has something that the other lacks in character, values or what have you. They make each other stronger and better people. I do believe in the saying, "It is better than to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all." When I look back on my life before I found real love, it was empty in spots and something was missing. Why deny such a powerful emotion out of fear?
AzaleaBelle Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 (edited) I see your points, Mr. Cairo. I understand your fear. I sympathize with your view of yourself. It is empowering to know that you are the only one in control of your life and future. It is safe and comfortable. I've been there. I changed when I least expected it. Suddenly, without warning, I was hopelessly devoted. However, emotions are NOT temporary. Don't you still love your mother? Finding the right mate does the same thing, it gives you more than a calculated release of chemicals. It improves YOU, changes your life. You do becomes dependent on their support, as you were dependent on your mother. That fosters a bond deeper than oxytocin creates. Just for fun edit: I'd like to add that, from an evolutionary stand point, fear wasn't meant to prevent us from mating. While we have become more civilized and the survival of our genetics are no longer at risk, our ancestors mated out of fear of extinction. Edited April 20, 2011 by AzaleaBelle
AzaleaBelle Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 So the fact that you still love your mother proves that emotions are NOT temporary.And it isn't about what a woman can GIVE you. That is a terribly selfish thing to say. You only love your mother because she gave you life? Oh my! I did not fall in love because I couldn't get "high" from anything else. There is another generalization. I get an incredible high from snowboarding. Shooting down that mountain in 16 inches of fresh snow is heaven and my body loves it. I love music and admiring paintings. I stood beneath the Sistine Chapel and cried out of sheer joy at the beauty of it. I laugh at the silly antics of children. I don't compare these things to the love I have for my partner. It is completely different.
NoMagicBullet Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 And then there are those of us who don't play games, who get ingored, and get sick of men whining about it because they ignored the red flags and dismissed the bad behavior when it cropped up. You get what you go after.
AzaleaBelle Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 And then there are those of us who don't play games, who get ingored, and get sick of men whining about it because they ignored the red flags and dismissed the bad behavior when it cropped up. You get what you go after. WORD! If you are only going after a certain type of woman, then its best to change that. Insanity is doing the same thing while expecting the same result, right?
Recommended Posts