Horseradish Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 (edited) Here's my predicament.... I had a very strict religious upbringing and finally moved away last year. I'd been on perhaps two dates my entire life, had never even kissed a guy, and found my newfound freedom a bit intoxicating. I discovered I liked sex and that I loved the thrill of being pursued even more. And the more men paying attention to me, the better. The problem is that this lifestyle isn't working for me. My last hookup was an abysmal failure, to the point that the guy will only associate with me when he's exhausted all other options. I'm not going to be a backup girl and I'm frankly a little hurt that I have become that in this scenario, although I recognize what led to that. I think that sex only within the bounds of commitment is the best course for me, both for emotions and personal values, but the problem is that I really, really like playing the game. Even though I intellectually believe that sex+commitment is best for me, I'm not sure I'm willing or ready to commit to a relationship. I believe strongly in relational fidelity and I would feel guilty even flirting with someone else if I were dating a man seriously. I'm also not sure that I have the social finesse to win the kind of man I would want to pursue a serious relationship with. I've never dated anyone longer than six weeks and frankly this is all new to me. What to do? Edited April 19, 2011 by Horseradish
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