lolo1234 Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 I was reading this dating blog the other day. This woman strongly suggested against any sexy pics. And sexy to her was anything showing legs or hint of boobs. I have about 8 pics on my online profile and 1 shows off my boobs In a non crude way. The rest aren't sexy at all. All this dating advice tells you to make him wait, don't be too sexy, etc But what if u genuinely enjoy sex and you dont want to end up with a dud in bed? I feel like these rules were made for women who don't value sex. I just got back out into the datog scene and I'm trying to find my footing. But I feel completely lost at times :/
Author lolo1234 Posted April 19, 2011 Author Posted April 19, 2011 I was reading this dating blog the other day. This woman strongly suggested against any sexy pics. And sexy to her was anything showing legs or hint of boobs. I have about 8 pics on my online profile and 1 shows off my boobs In a non crude way in one. I have big boobs foe my size. The rest aren't sexy at all,mostly face pics All this dating advice tells you to make him wait, don't be too sexy, etc But what if u genuinely enjoy sex and you dont want to end up with a dud in bed? I feel like these rules were made for women who don't value sex. I just got back out into the datog scene and I'm trying to find my footing. But I feel completely lost at times :
SmileFace Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 So, only women who dress sexy value(like) sex? Is that what you are saying?
Author lolo1234 Posted April 19, 2011 Author Posted April 19, 2011 Btw I'm 34 years old and not immature at all. I've had multiple relationships and flings. I have 2 kids, a boy and a girl. No clock ticking here
Author lolo1234 Posted April 19, 2011 Author Posted April 19, 2011 I don't know.... You're right . Probably not.
Author lolo1234 Posted April 19, 2011 Author Posted April 19, 2011 Smile face... Thought about what u posted. Honestly some guys satisfy me and some don't. That's important to me.
Jazzari Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 Your pictures send a message. So I would choose pictures that send the type of message you want out there. The type of men you get from "do me now" pictures versus "classy sexy" versus "uptight" will all be different. I don't think there's a right or wrong answer. It all depends on what you want and what you're looking for.
Author lolo1234 Posted April 19, 2011 Author Posted April 19, 2011 Bumping bc I have never seen this covered before
zengirl Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 I think you should put up pictures that show who YOU are, so my pictures are all ones that show off my personality (except for the basic close up shot so you can really see my face) as well as my looks. I'm doing activites I was really doing when people took photos of me. Of course, I picked the pictures where I looked good doing them! In terms of 'sexy' pictures, to me, that's putting out there that you value being objectified. If that's the case, do it. If you want to be seen as a whole person, I'd play down sexy pictures and put up pictures where you look cute but not like a piece of meat. So, only women who dress sexy value(like) sex? Is that what you are saying? This is a good point. I don't really feel comfortable even going out and about with cleavage unless I'm really going out on the town (i.e. leaving the house after 9PM or so, staying out late, and only going to downtown-y places). But I love sex. Sex is fantastic. I just don't want to be sexually objectified as I shop for groceries or whatnot. There's also such a thing as saving something for private---I wear clothes that show off my figure to where you know I look great, but that cover me up because while I'm totally comfortable with my body and love being naked with a SO I adore, I don't really want other people objectifying my body or seeing the sexiest parts of it. Everyone has their own limits for this, of course.
Author lolo1234 Posted April 20, 2011 Author Posted April 20, 2011 Ok cool. I appreciate the comments on the sexy pics. I might pm you ladies later with my pics to get a different perspective.
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