musemaj11 Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 why do you say that? By getting married, a man sacrifices these three things: 1) The 50% risk that one day he might lose half of all his life savings. 2) He gives up his freedom to explore other women by limiting himself to one woman for the rest of his life. 3) In most marriages the men are richer and the women are more beautiful. Except the men will usually only get richer while the women will only get older and uglier. Smart men should know that marriage is bad business. Its all for the men to lose. Unless the women are richer in which case the advantages and disadvantages even out.
zengirl Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 If a woman wants to propose why not? My wife proposed to me and we are going strong and I am damn sure not some submissive weak man. What is it with some women wanting to go back to the 1950s these days? Preach it. I didn't know your wife had proposed. Good on her.
Jazzari Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 I swore off marriage after my first divorce and during our engagement I went back and forth on if I really wanted to do it again. I told her I had no plans on getting married again but she proposed anyway and I am glad she did. The fact that she actually got me to walk down the aisle says a lot about what a quality woman she is.That's very cool. Did she do anything special or romantic? Did she buy a ring? I'm ok with women proposing but I wouldn't do it myself. I want the heart pounding romance of a proposal. And extra points if he takes me by surprise.
Woggle Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 That's very cool. Did she do anything special or romantic? Did she buy a ring? I'm ok with women proposing but I wouldn't do it myself. I want the heart pounding romance of a proposal. And extra points if he takes me by surprise. There was no ring but afterwards we went on bought rings. We are out together being all love dovey and it came from out of nowhere.
Jazzari Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 There was no ring but afterwards we went on bought rings. We are out together being all love dovey and it came from out of nowhere. Awww....that is just super awesome. I'm a sucker for a love story.
sweetjasmine Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 There was no ring but afterwards we went on bought rings. We are out together being all love dovey and it came from out of nowhere. Aww, Woggle, that's very sweet. What are we counting as proposing? I can't remember which one of us brought it up first, but my SO and I have discussed it at length, and we've gone ring shopping. He'll be the one to formally ask, all traditional-like, but it's not exactly a surprise that we want to marry each other. I don't understand why people would want it to be a total secret and surprise -- don't you want to be sure that your girlfriend agrees before you go through the trouble?
Jazzari Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 I don't understand why people would want it to be a total secret and surprise -- don't you want to be sure that your girlfriend agrees before you go through the trouble? Mostly it's the when and how he asks that I want to be a secret. Kinda like they did on The Office between Jim and Pam. She knew he was going to ask her, but she wanted the actual proposal be romantic and a surprise.
Author 9Lives Posted April 20, 2011 Author Posted April 20, 2011 Well I truly appreciate everyone opinions. It was very interesting. My conclusion: I have been married before for 10 years and I know a man will ask me again. I will not ask a man to marry me and that is FINAL. Nothing against those who would. Thanks for everyone input. Truly appreciated.
musemaj11 Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 Well I truly appreciate everyone opinions. It was very interesting. My conclusion: I have been married before for 10 years and I know a man will ask me again. I will not ask a man to marry me and that is FINAL. Nothing against those who would. Thanks for everyone input. Truly appreciated. Good luck, but dont hold your breath.
Disillusioned Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 I am saying...yes I am saying....no woman should propose to a man. out of place Bull. It doesn't matter who proposes to whom AFAIC. My question is, where is the LOVE?
Author 9Lives Posted April 20, 2011 Author Posted April 20, 2011 Good luck, but dont hold your breath. I know I man will. I have no doubt in my mind. Very sure of it. I have men at me all the time. Im just not ready to totally commited with all that comes with being in a relationship. I will invite you to the wedding.
Author 9Lives Posted April 20, 2011 Author Posted April 20, 2011 Bull. It doesn't matter who proposes to whom AFAIC. My question is, where is the LOVE? I see that we all think differently. Honestly I have been proposed to 3 times. I was married for 10 years so Im not worried about it. I know that I wont ask a man to marry me. If you are a woman and feel comfortable with it. That fine with me. I learned something new today. I know I wont be doing it tho.
musemaj11 Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 I know I man will. I have no doubt in my mind. Very sure of it. I have men at me all the time. Im just not ready to totally commited with all that comes with being in a relationship. I will invite you to the wedding. Good luck finding that sucker then.
alphamale Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 i would never marry a woman who wanted to marry me
Author 9Lives Posted April 20, 2011 Author Posted April 20, 2011 Good luck finding that sucker then. Your so funny. You cant hurt my feelings. I am very comfortable in my skin as a woman and I love being one too and I love a man being a man. It all good.
Author 9Lives Posted April 20, 2011 Author Posted April 20, 2011 i would never marry a woman who wanted to marry me What you saying Alpha? Im confused.
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 Im just gonna come straight out and tell you...I think it is RIDICULOUS!!!! Women want to be men and men want to be women these days. I cant do it. Women have so much power....too bad they dont know what to do with it. We just keep giving up everything and trust me....we will pay for it. Welcome to the Dog Pound Well if that's how you feel, good for you. I for one could care less if a girl proposed to me or didn't propose to me. Maybe I'm not a "real man".
musemaj11 Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 Your so funny. You cant hurt my feelings. I am very comfortable in my skin as a woman and I love being one too and I love a man being a man. It all good. It wasnt necessarily a personal insult. As I said, a man who marries is a fool, and whoever is going to end up marrying you is therefore a sucker.
Author 9Lives Posted April 20, 2011 Author Posted April 20, 2011 Well if that's how you feel, good for you. I for one could care less if a girl proposed to me or didn't propose to me. Maybe I'm not a "real man". Why would you say, your not a real man? You may not want to get married or something right now or ever. That doesnt make you less of a man. Why would you say that?
Author 9Lives Posted April 20, 2011 Author Posted April 20, 2011 It wasnt necessarily a personal insult. As I said, a man who marries is a fool, and whoever is going to end up marrying you is therefore a sucker. okay. If you say so. thanks
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 Why would you say, your not a real man? You may not want to get married or something right now or ever. That doesnt make you less of a man. Why would you say that? It was a snide remark. You've been insinuating this entire time that the man should do the proposing. If I were dating a girl I could care less whether she proposed to me or if I proposed to her. Rules like that are for the most part silly and arbitrary.
donnamaybe Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 there is no need to give the woman any power I can't imagine any kind of healthy relationship wherein one or both needs to "allow" the other "power." No one needs to give me power. It Is my life, and I have power over it.
zengirl Posted April 20, 2011 Posted April 20, 2011 I can't imagine any kind of healthy relationship wherein one or both needs to "allow" the other "power." No one needs to give me power. It Is my life, and I have power over it. Yes. If the relationship is a power struggle, I kind of think you're doing it wrong.
Author 9Lives Posted April 20, 2011 Author Posted April 20, 2011 I can't imagine any kind of healthy relationship wherein one or both needs to "allow" the other "power." No one needs to give me power. It Is my life, and I have power over it. feminine power is sexy and desireable to a man and he loves it. He loves to be capitivated by our beauty. It puts a smile on his face. It makes him feel good and more masculant. Not just your outer beauty but your inner beauty. Your inner beauty makes him feel comfortable leaning in towards you and offering himself up to you. he will feel something inside himself that makes him comfortable with you and keep him coming back for more. he is captivated! He enjoys it and welcomes it and wants more and more of it.
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