Namgrebsemaj Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 Ok so we have been together for more than a year. we moved in with each other only a few months after we started dating. We had both fallen in love almost the moment we meet. We broke up recently her idea not mine. She said she was sick of my band jealousy. I told her i didn't want to breakup and that i love her and want to reconcile. she moved into the guest room instead of moving out. she says if i give her time she might be able to forgive me and love me as more than a friend again. She is my best friend and i want to put things back on track what should i do in this situation? I know i should wait but i am scared that it wont ever happen and i will be sad and in love with someone who doesn't love me until it gets out of control and I finally kick her out once and for all.
poorguy Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 One of the two of you need to find other living arangements. You moved in together waaaaay to soon. I have done this twice in my life and it never works out. After that year and a half time frame comes to an end one of the two parties is'nt into it so much anymore. It's just the breaks
Author Namgrebsemaj Posted April 19, 2011 Author Posted April 19, 2011 Here's the thing i want her more than i have wanted anything in my life. I have apologise over and over. Made a point to take all the blame here. I have bent over backward to change myself for her. But how do i know if i should just give up.
poorguy Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 Your going to have to give up for now. If you've already done all of that then you've given everything you can for now. Sometimes you just have to let things go to let things get better. There is nothing you can do or say right now to change her mind- so don't try to
collegeguy_24 Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 Is it Ok if we have more details, like what kind of jealousy did she accuse you of? What kind of other problems are there? And out of curiosity, in what part of Montana are you located in?
Author Namgrebsemaj Posted April 21, 2011 Author Posted April 21, 2011 Well I think you are right. I have just been giving her time and being the best friend i can be and she seems more open to us getting back together. but there is some guy sniffing around now. she says she just want to be his friend but i know he wants more. I think i have the advantage of living with her. So i am not to worried about a guy that can only facebook or text her because he lives a ways away. Hopping that will be his achilles heal. So i plan on taking her out for fun and cooking her great meals. This guy won't win over me. I won't let some dumb hick take the best thing that has ever happened to me. Any advise on some fun outings she and I can do while we are out? We did bowling and i made it a little more dangerous by sneaking in some booze. she liked that a lot. And fishing she loves fishing. I live in the Gallatin area so stuff there would be great.
Rosa Tamora Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Hi there, Tough situation. I think it is important you give her space. Don't crowd her. Continue to be a friend to her and be kind and patient, as best you can, but don't keep apologizing and don't take all the blame for everything that has happened. Keep your dignity intact, because I mean, there is usually TWO people in a misunderstanding about something, not just one person. You want to avoid being a doormat, and begging and pleading is not attractive. Just relax and let some time pass. She has at least mentioned what she needs from you, so just go with it for now because being pushy isn't going to get you anywhere.
Author Namgrebsemaj Posted April 23, 2011 Author Posted April 23, 2011 She kissed me last night. We were playing beer pong, and we got pretty drunk. Well i was buzzed. we were laughing and having a good time. i took her back to her room and was taking her into bed. She said she was cold so i crawled into bed with her. we were spooning and i need to get up and go to the bathroom. when i got back she was facing the other way. I got in bed and said i love you. She said i love you too and we kissed. Well worst part of that is today she doesn't remember it at all.
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