sabienne Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 Hi all, I won't go into long winded details about our breakup, but a month ago I split with my partner of 6 years. We were engaged and owned property together. The breakup was entirely his decision, and it seemed to come out of the blue for me. Now we are going through the process of selling said property (I am buying out his half) and I am having to contact him constantly because he's refusing to do any of the work involved for it to happen. As long as he gets his money at the end, that's all he cares about. It's difficult because he's the one who wants this to happen, yet I'm the one who has to be doing all the work. I am really struggling with the contact because I don't want to talk to him. I don't want anything to do with him. I'm a very emotional person at the best of times. I really do wear my heart on my sleeve and every time we get in contact, I have a near breakdown and end up cussing him out, or crying and continually asking why, or telling him how much I love him and I don't understand why he's doing this. I don't WANT to contact him. I would love to go NC and just try and get him out of my life. Every time I go a few days without talking to him, I feel so much better, but unfortunately, given our situation and his inability to take initiative for anything, I have to be in contact. It's at the point now where he essentially ignores any texts or I get an "ok" email response about EVERYTHING. The only time he elaborates is when his cash is brought up. I have tried communicating with him through my solicitor, but he will always respond to ME, not the solicitor, usually with an "ok". It's driving me insane and causing me a LOT of pain and emotional distress. Does anyone have any advice on how to make this process easier?
imagine Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 Write a no contact letter. Arrange all correspondence goes through an intermediate. Contact is hurtful and this needs to be communicated in the letter. Vent here.
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