Wolz Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 We were so close to seeing each other again and she decided to call it quits. She needed time. Her grandpa found out he has lung cancer and she's coping with that and her new job and oncoming school. She said I deserve someone better, but she fails to realize all I want is her. I don't if I'd hVe to wait for her and put up with her going through her hardships. It would be a privilege to be there for her. We were so close to seeing each other again. Just 33 more days... I feel broken inside and the tears won't stop coming:( It's true that nice guys get ****ed over in the end... P.s. She said the whole "you're a great guy and anyone would be lucky to have you.but i still think we should be friends" speal
Author Wolz Posted April 19, 2011 Author Posted April 19, 2011 wow theres a lot of typos in this when i wrote it after just finding out. This all feels like a bad dream that i can't wake up from....
creighton0123 Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 You might not want to hear this, but I think those token lines like "You're a great guy and anyone would be lucky to have you...." and "You deserve better" are intentionally deceptive. Despite hardships, it sounds more like she's just not happy in the relationship. It sucks, I know, but I'd say no contact for a little while to rebound and move on. Friends now? Most likely not. In a few years, perhaps.
Author Wolz Posted April 20, 2011 Author Posted April 20, 2011 I'm giving her 30 days to change her mind since that's when my flight was to see her. If she changed her mind I'll see her but without a doubt things will need to be addressed. If she doesn't change her mind in 30 days I'm erasing every trace of her from my life completely.
Rachel.1978 Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 You might not want to hear this, but I think those token lines like "You're a great guy and anyone would be lucky to have you...." and "You deserve better" are intentionally deceptive. Despite hardships, it sounds more like she's just not happy in the relationship. It sucks, I know, but I'd say no contact for a little while to rebound and move on. Friends now? Most likely not. In a few years, perhaps. I fully agree with you there. Breaking up and getting into a friendship mode is not going to happen. May be after a few years, when both of you would have moved on, may be into new relationships, you can come back to "friendship" but for now I think you should let it go.
HeavenOrHell Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 She didn't leave you cos you're nice, if you were a horrible person then she'd be a fool for being with you in the first place, only idiots go for 'bad guys.' She has a lot on her plate right now, people change and have different priorities, she didn't leave cos you weren't a bad guy, why I'm saying is don'r beat yourself up or become bitter and start acting like a 'bad guy' cos it's got nothing to do with why she left you. Stay you. A dumpee isn't any less of a person just cos they've been dumped, or less worthwhile or attractive etc etc, although it took me a long time to realise this after my ex left me after 18 years. You will come through this, believe me We were so close to seeing each other again and she decided to call it quits. She needed time. Her grandpa found out he has lung cancer and she's coping with that and her new job and oncoming school. She said I deserve someone better, but she fails to realize all I want is her. I don't if I'd hVe to wait for her and put up with her going through her hardships. It would be a privilege to be there for her. We were so close to seeing each other again. Just 33 more days... I feel broken inside and the tears won't stop coming:( It's true that nice guys get ****ed over in the end... P.s. She said the whole "you're a great guy and anyone would be lucky to have you.but i still think we should be friends" speal
HeavenOrHell Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 No contact is the way to go to let go of someone you are in love with, but it may not take years, it depends on the people and the circumstances. I only needed a few weeks of NC after my partner left after 18 years, we are good friends now and will always be close. We both have new partners, which does help. My current partner didn't need any time apart from his ex in order to move on and meet someone new, but most people do. I fully agree with you there. Breaking up and getting into a friendship mode is not going to happen. May be after a few years, when both of you would have moved on, may be into new relationships, you can come back to "friendship" but for now I think you should let it go.
SleeplessRomantic Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 I agree with HeavenOrHell. No contact all the way. Wolz, you'll be fine. You'll find somebody else (somebody better) and you'll be better for it. You have the support of everybody here. Don't beat yourself up over it! Relax!
Author Wolz Posted April 25, 2011 Author Posted April 25, 2011 (edited) I ended it, I wanted to wait out the month but eventually her lack of even caring made me give up. She's not worth it if she doesn't even feel anything from breaking up with me. Im devastated but time heals all. On the brightside, I think I'm going to join the airforce Edited April 25, 2011 by Wolz
zebracolors Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 just found out i was actually cheated on. Ouch I know that revelation can't be helping after everything you have been through from that girl. But at least you know now instead of months or years down the road and after some visits right? Now is the time to let yourself recover, and don't rush into anymore relationships for a while as a suggestion. Hope you feel better soon
HeavenOrHell Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 if that's true, then it's the same for men. And most women say that because they have someone else in their wing.
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