Rayke Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 So, back in February, some local improv guys drafted me into a group to co-write a sketch comedy show with them and some of their friends. It was awesome. Some of the most fun have I have ever had writing. One of the girls in the group caught my attention on the very first day. I asked some of the other writers what her story was, and they told me that she was looking for someone pretty hard, and was tired of being single. But they also warned me not to make any moves until after our show was written and performed so there wouldn't be any weirdness within the group if it didn't work out. I regret agreeing to this. Two weeks later, she said she had met somebody. They began dating. After only a month, they were taking vacations to Mexico together. Through all of this, her and I always had good chemistry. We loved bouncing ideas off of each other and learning more about each other. I began thinking about her a *lot*. She is the funniest chick I have ever met in my life. Also, super smart and very cute. I'm not naive enough to say that I'm in LOVE with her, but, the only girl I have ever been in love with (I'm 23) started with the same "thinking about her all the time" type of mindset. I definitely dig her more than any other girls that I just had a crush on. She also never referred to this guy as her "boyfriend". Only as "the guy that I am dating". So last Saturday was our show's debut. It went very well. I had provided beers backstage for us. The guy she had been dating was there and I finally got to meet him. He seems nice. And when she introduced us, she used the word "boyfriend" for the first time. My heart sank a bit. She came up to me later, while I was trying to have like three other conversations, and told me she had drank two of my beers backstage, and that she owed me two more. Instead of saying "I guess we'll have to go out for drinks sometime then", I was distracted by the other conversations and just replied "No, it's cool! No worries". We have been having writers meeting every Sunday for the last two months, and when we didn't have one yesterday, I found myself *really* missing her. I decided that I would Facebook her and ask her if she wants to hang sometime (since we were no longer having Sunday meetings, we would never actually see each other otherwise). I was going to do that today. But when I logged onto Facebook this morning, her status said that she was going to be moving to NYC with this guy. In two months. They will have known each other for a grand total of four months when they do this. She said he got accepted to NYU (which is very impressive, and I'll give him major props for that) and she just made the choice to go with him. I told her we need to hang out so she can tell me all about this (major) decision that she's made, seeming very supportive. She agreed that we should hang out. I'm still awaiting her reply as to when. My question for you guys is, should I tell her how I feel? I'm well aware of the fact that she's going to NYC regardless, and I would never let her stay her for me, but that's getting very ahead of myself. She initially seemed like she was just dating this guy because she wanted to be dating ANY guy. And I regret not asking her out when I first met her instead of waiting until after the show was written, and we had become friends. But I think I would regret it if I didn't say anything. Women, if you were in a position similar to hers (I know you don't know her, so you can't tell me what her reaction would be) how would you respond?
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