prettystar Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 Ok, I like this guy; he's 26 (I'm 22.) But I don't understand him at all, and I haven't shown my interest either. He's been my instructor for two semesters. I know he likes me. He is always looking at me, and has always complimented me for insignificant things. Last semester he would say anything to me and smile waiting for my reaction (I wasn't so responsive though.) But then again, everything changed the day I remained in the classroom with one guy. He was leaving and seemed kind of confused as to why we didn't leave as well. And, from the next class on, he started acting nasty/sweet to me. One day he even turned off the lights when I was in the classroom and left saying "see ya." He also asked if I was drunk in front of everybody when I got stuck answering a question. And whenever I sent him an email asking anything about the subject, he would be very brief (though he once mentioned that he didn't understand why there are some people who say a lot by email but in-person.) And this semester things have turned more confusing. On the one hand, he acts very sweet whenever I approach him. It's not only that but also when I'm about to approach him, he seems to forget there are other students around and keeps looking in my direction. On the other hand, he seems to get angry with me. He doesn't say anything to anyone coming late to class but me. And he has reprimanded me for being absent three times. He even told me that I could fail the class if I'm absent more than that. He didn't say so face-to-face though (he did it by email and mentioned it in class.) When I approached him to ask why he was saying that when we're allowed to be absent more hours, he didn't listen and just said that I could do a make-up assignment so that I wouldn't have my grade dropped a full letter. Another issue is that the guy I mentioned above (we remained in the classroom last semester) is in this class as well. I want to be friends with him because he is like me, quiet and polite. But when I'm talking to him, which happens very seldom, the guy I like keeps looking at us. In fact, he pays special attention whenever I'm talking to any male classmate. And, the day my friend was reading a romantic poem of his own, he mocked him "awww," and asked "who's that for? What's her name?" And later, when I was typing something in my netbook (I don't usually take my netbook to class), he asked who I was talking to and what his name was. I was shocked!! Another thing that confuses me is, when I wrote an essay about the theme of love and how the characters of a story communicated beyond words and how they would remain together no matter what or who got on the way, he gave it back to me saying it failed to respond the prompt. It seemed to me that he was angry for something else I cannot decipher though. He likes me as a student, so it could have been that he was disappointed for it or for the theme itself? However, when I wrote a new essay, about illusory love and how it is not meant to last last week, he turned sweeter than ever. So, when I asked him about the assignment I am to do at the end of the class, he told me we could talk about it while leaving. However, as we were going forward, I stopped near the bathroom as though I was waiting for him to talk and leave. I don't know if he meant to talk about it though, because he did take very long to answer. He was like "so you can..uh....write about...hmm...uhhh...any literary work. Is that ok?" Can anyone tell me what's going on with him?
thatone Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 he's nervous about losing his job? he can't date his students. that's it. no matter how hard he wants to, the criticism is his way of pushing you away to keep himself out of trouble.
windows Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 Sounds like confused jealousy in a teacher/student relationship. He can't date his students and he doesn't like it when other guys talk to you. Worst position to be in.
Lucky_One Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 Send me the essays and the assignment via PM. Then I can tell you if you missed the point of the assignment or not. Other than that, his behavior doesn't really seem odd, but it does seem as though you are taking very small things and trying to build them up into something much larger.
Author prettystar Posted April 19, 2011 Author Posted April 19, 2011 ... it does seem as though you are taking very small things and trying to build them up into something much larger. What do you mean by that? About the essays, I wouldn't think they had any impact on him if his behavior didn't change all of a sudden. And I do know that he likes me, so I'm not "taking very small things and blah, blah, blah..." Though, perhaps it was coincidental that he changed his attitudes towards me after I wrote the essays. I sometimes wonder if he's just infatuated.
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