Lilmisus Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 So, this coworker (at the restaurant I work at) that I've been crushing on for the past week, apparently likes me, and a couple of my friends have encouraged him to ask me out, tonight. Tonight, I know he was about to, because he was talking to me about how my one friend was asking if he was single and whatnot (for me), and he was telling me how there aren't really that many single girls there (he knows I'm one of them, she told him and told him to ask me out in the process). But, I played dumb to what he was saying, and told him that there were a few single girls here, and joked around with him about something else. So, the problem isn't "does he like me?" it's, should I go out with him? People are telling me yes, that it's the best thing for me to do since he's an awesome guy and would treat me great. One person even said that it'd be a great way to get back at my ex. When she told me that, I told her that I would not go out with someone out of spite, and that that's not my goal at all; I just really like the guy. My ex has absolutely nothing to do with this at all. I'm just worried that people will think that that's all I'm doing with him, and that he will get bad stuff said and done to him like my ex's new "buddy" is having done to her. People loathe her now for hanging out with my ex, and I really don't want to do that to this guy, since he doesn't deserve that at all. Part of me is wondering if when (and if) he asks me out, if I tell him what he'll be facing if we do date? Like rumors spreading. People talking poorly to and about him. Would that be silly if I did that, or should I just not worry about it? I know that at least the mature ones wont do or say anything like that, but there are plenty of immature coworkers there, who would, without a doubt. It's enough to drive someone to insanity (or to quit). Some encouraging words would be appreciated, or whatever you guys think about this, I would love to know.
Professor X Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 First, wait and see if he actually does ask you out. If he does, than just go out with him, try not to worry to much and if by then you will still think to much about the whole rumor issue than you could tell him what people might say. But be careful when you do say it, you don't wanna come out crazy. Make it brief and talk as if it's something that won't bother you (because it really doesn't matter!). That's it, go have some fun, who cares what a bunch of lifeless retards are gonna say about you? It's your life, it's non of their business! Those sort of things will only be a problem if you make them one.
thatone Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 My ex has absolutely nothing to do with this at all. I'm just worried that people will think that that's all I'm doing with him, and that he will get bad stuff said and done to him like my ex's new "buddy" is having done to her. People loathe her now for hanging out with my ex, and I really don't want to do that to this guy, since he doesn't deserve that at all. men do not care about such things. nor do they care what women who they're not with say regarding such things.
Author Lilmisus Posted April 19, 2011 Author Posted April 19, 2011 First, wait and see if he actually does ask you out. If he does, than just go out with him, try not to worry to much and if by then you will still think to much about the whole rumor issue than you could tell him what people might say. But be careful when you do say it, you don't wanna come out crazy. Make it brief and talk as if it's something that won't bother you (because it really doesn't matter!). That's it, go have some fun, who cares what a bunch of lifeless retards are gonna say about you? It's your life, it's non of their business! Those sort of things will only be a problem if you make them one. I like this suggestion, thank you. Plus, he may not even ask me out, so I may not even have anything to worry about, who knows? I just know that I'm not going to focus too much on this, or this one guy, and hopefully we'll be able to just go with the flow without too much (if any) drama going on there. Especially with my ex. Eh, wish me luck! Hopefully tomorrow (we both work tomorrow, and this mainly occurred at the end of the night tonight), I'll know more of what I want to do, and something will actually had happened between us.
Professor X Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 I like this suggestion, thank you. Plus, he may not even ask me out, so I may not even have anything to worry about, who knows? I just know that I'm not going to focus too much on this, or this one guy, and hopefully we'll be able to just go with the flow without too much (if any) drama going on there. Especially with my ex. Eh, wish me luck! Hopefully tomorrow (we both work tomorrow, and this mainly occurred at the end of the night tonight), I'll know more of what I want to do, and something will actually had happened between us. Good luck =) & keep us posted!
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