lovemeforever Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 I have a bf of 3 years now and I'm ready to call it quits. My bf is not ready to settle down with me. I want to get married and have kids but he doesn't. He also just went back to school so his excuse is that he doesn't have money or the time to raise a kid. He already has a child with someone else and he's a very loving and caring father...duh! He also goes out to the clubs almost every wknd and doesn't take me with him. He'd rather do stuff with his guy friends than with me. Our sex life is dead and he's no longer satisying me in bed. I end up watching porn to satisfy myself because he's not as adventourous as he used to be when we first started dating...it's that bad. However, I have been talking to some guy I met at work and I like what I feel for him. He's currently separated and going through a divorce. We've been talking a lot and he wants to settle down and have kids. He always compliments me and makes me feel very sexy. We've been sexting a lot lately and I just love the things he says to me. I really wanna hook up with him but I'm not sure if I'm going to be a rebound chick or if our feelings for each other are based on lust. Please adv.
mr.dream merchant Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 I have a bf of 3 years now and I'm ready to call it quits. My bf is not ready to settle down with me. I want to get married and have kids but he doesn't. He also just went back to school so his excuse is that he doesn't have money or the time to raise a kid. He already has a child with someone else and he's a very loving and caring father...duh! He also goes out to the clubs almost every wknd and doesn't take me with him. He'd rather do stuff with his guy friends than with me. Our sex life is dead and he's no longer satisying me in bed. I end up watching porn to satisfy myself because he's not as adventourous as he used to be when we first started dating...it's that bad. However, I have been talking to some guy I met at work and I like what I feel for him. He's currently separated and going through a divorce. We've been talking a lot and he wants to settle down and have kids. He always compliments me and makes me feel very sexy. We've been sexting a lot lately and I just love the things he says to me. I really wanna hook up with him but I'm not sure if I'm going to be a rebound chick or if our feelings for each other are based on lust. Please adv. Heh, I don't blame your boyfriend. I definitely would not want to impregnate NOR date a woman who thinks like this...in a serious fashion. My advice to you? Just leave your boyfriend already, and stop jumping from one relationship to another. Be single, find yourself, LOVE yourself, heal, move forward with things. And stop using men as options.
sugarmomma Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 Wait until he is out of the marriage completely before you get involved with a separated man. You are asking for trouble if you don't. Many married/separated men end up getting back with their spouses and the other woman/man is left brokenhearted. You can't say you didn't know what you were getting into. As for your BF you need to get rid of him whether you find someone new or not. He's neglectful and disrespectful.
Jazzari Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 If you're sexting with another man, it's time to leave your boyfriend. It doesn't matter if it works out with the new guy or not.
Professor X Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 I don't quite get the question here. You rather stay in a dead RS, with no sex, no real communication, no marriage and no kids than, I don't know.. being alone? Aren't you quite alone as it is? Or is the porn enough to keep you with your "bf"? I think you both already called quits on your RS long time ago, I guess it's only semantics that's left. It's time for you to leave.
Eeyore79 Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 I think you need to decide whether your current relationship is going anywhere, regardless of what other opportunities may be available. It sounds like you're better off ending your relationship anyway, no matter what happens or doesn't happen with this other guy. Given how you described your bf, I think you're better off dumping him and looking for someone else - not this separated man you mentioned, but someone else entirely - someone who isn't married and is looking for a serious relationship.
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