crossfire Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 (edited) a little insight we dated all through high school and had a good relationship she had an eating disorder(is healthy now) I tried to be the one to fix her and help her through. Ended up breaking up as our life's were moving in different directions ect... we dated for about 3 years anyways fast forward 4 years I am very successful with career and friends family ect.. I've been with quite a few girls but can honestly say she is the only girl I've ever cared about and had that strong connection with she tracked down my number and txt'd me a few days ago saying she wanted to meet up and has been thinking about me lots (i had been thinking about her as well but didn't act on it) i said to my self hey why not she just got out of a relationship about a month ago sounded like a bad break up i can tell she has strong feeling for me ect... where I'm lost is what do i do?? I don't wanna be the re bound. I have been taking things slow with her but honestly could see my self with her for my life do I take the chance or am I making a mistake? Edited April 19, 2011 by crossfire
PinkLazuli Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 (edited) Take a chance!!! Maybe after dating that other guy she realized that you're what she wants. If you move on and not try, you're going to constantly be thinking of the "what if's". I've been in a similar situation and I regret not giving it another try. If it doesn't work out, then at least you can move on knowing u gave it ONE last shot. Good luck! Edited April 19, 2011 by PinkLazuli
noleaf Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 i say go for it!!! why not?!? hope it works out for you x x x
Fufu Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 Taking a chance or not is your decision However, I just want to comment on the part that she's only just out of a relationship very recently. Take things VERY SLOWLY, don't rush, if you want to take this as a chance.
dng Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 do I take the chance or am I making a mistake? It's just my opinion but I think you're making a mistake. She zero'ed in on you because she already knows you and its easier than meeting new people. Weaker or selfish people fresh out of LTRs do exactly that. Their egos are crushed and they fall back on exes to "be" with someone because they cannot bare to be alone after all this time relying on someone. You'd be putting yourself at risk that she runs back to her ex or you'd be there until she finds someone she can fall in love with. Why is this my opinion? After 9 years my ex left and in less than a month she hooked up with someone from her past, all the while calling me all the time about getting back together. It took months until she finally admitted she was seeing someone and that's when I cut off all contacts. Not even out of pride, I just realized that she would always bounce back between him and I until she found a 3rd party and would leave everyone in the dust. Be very careful and think this throught, look at everything that can happen. I suggest you focus your energy and try and date someone not completely insane.
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