Tayla Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 ITs said that we often need to get back in the saddle again when it comes to putting ourselves out there in the dating world. I can sincerely say that three years ago was the last I was in a relation. From that relation which was never true dating, being seen as a couple etc. I stopped thinking that dating or being of interest was that important. Lately though its been dawning on me that maybe I need a new saddle. A new approach to this entire concept of dating and getting on with that part of my life. I lead a full life, career,friends, interest, hobbies, and family, yet sometimes I wonder if I am selling myself short by not getting out there to date. Other times I hang up the idea because after reading comments here, I'm half wondering if there are gents anymore. I sincerely believe that I have much to contribute to a solid relation and would like to take that risk, yet I question, maybe an ole lady like myself should just accept that I am out to pasture and not make a fool of myself. Its sooo not easy to know which path to take....What would you tell a Lady in this situation? Hang it up, re-invent, or accept that age does limit things and accept the blessings that are already in my life?
daphne Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 yet sometimes I wonder if I am selling myself short by not getting out there to date. Yes, you are. Hang it up, re-invent, or accept that age does limit things and accept the blessings that are already in my life? Don't be silly. You are only limited by your beliefs, perhaps. That doesn't make it reality. Try reinventing to stir up some confidence and see what happens. Then get out there. No one's getting any younger.
windows Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 Nothing more attractive than a woman who looks like she's got it together and has confidence to go with it. I don't think age can mar that.
Stung Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 I thought this was going to be some kind of kinky sex thread. Tayla, I am disappoint. Anyway. You're confident, independent, those things are attractive to a lot of good guys. My mother-in-law is in her early 60s, she has a new beau. My aunt got married for the 2nd time when she was in her 60s, they couldn't keep their hands off each other. My other aunt, a former beauty queen, used to date guys in the same age range as me when I was 30 and she was 50. She looked awesome in a miniskirt. Go out and get you some, girl. Live your life to the fullest. Try, and if at first you don't succeed, try, try again. And please don't take the commentary here too seriously. I don't know if it's age or local culture or dysfunction or all three, but I can say that the reality I live in and the reality many posters in this section portray often have little in common.
january2011 Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 I also "pfft" at your comment regarding age. When you're ready to dip your toe into the dating waters, you may find that a sane woman who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to ask is well sought after.
jane100 Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 I also "pfft" at your comment regarding age. When you're ready to dip your toe into the dating waters, you may find that a sane woman who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to ask is well sought after. lovely thread, fantastic advice!
Cee Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 Put yourself out there in the dating world and see what you find. But don't take rejection and heart break too personally. The good ones are out there, but unfortunately, usually they aren't the ones throwing themselves at you. The players are. Try not to get hung up on age, but I don't always practice what I preach. In my 20s, I would look in full length mirrors and get upset about my weight. In my 40s, I look in bathroom mirrors and despair over grey hair and lines on my forehead. I found love after 6 years of singlehood. And when it happened, I knew the search was well worth it.
Author Tayla Posted April 20, 2011 Author Posted April 20, 2011 Well I thank you each for your varying supportive words. It does bring food for thought . LOl to Stung! Maybe I do need to be more zany in my approach to dating, its the kinky part that I do worry about. Luckily we have boundaries and curiousity to keep in check. Cee: Thanks, I needed to hear your reality check Miss Clairol and I are good friends. Correct to the nahsayers, confidence is not my strong point. Hopefully there are other attributes that can carry a date to a fair ending each time. Not asking for prince charming but a charming evening out would be pleasant. We shall see. Overall its a confidence builder to know there are folks like you all who don't think age should hinder dating.
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