chickychickybowwow Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Met w/ex and it went really good, he actually sent me a quick email during a bathroom break at our meeting and said that even though we had a rough start (dated 2 months) he was liking our time tonight. I then sent him an email the next day stating that it was great meeting up with him and looking forward to a fresh start. He then sent back an email and said we will set up something in the coming weeks to get together. Haven't heard back from him in a week. And I don't dare contact him again (I intiated the contact). Of course, I am getting antsy. What makes it so difficult is because I contacted him and showed my vulnerable side. Our time together during the first go around was definitely bad timing (I was dealing with a family death and he starting a new job after being unemployed for 15mos.) I think it is worth a second chance. I am trying to stay cool and be patient, but how long should I wait before giving up hope?
MakingChanges Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Were yall only together for 2 months and how long did yall wait to see each otehr again after the break up. Were yall in NC or anything like that for some time? Help gather things up on what to do next.
Author chickychickybowwow Posted April 19, 2011 Author Posted April 19, 2011 (edited) We were only together for 2 months and then 2 months of NC. I reached out because I truly thought that he was worth going back and re-establishing contact. In the 38 years I have been alive, I believe in only going forward. I never back pedal in relationships, when it's over it's over. But for some reason I needed to revisit our situation as our timing sucked, but truly enjoyed my time with him. At our meeting, he showed definite interest in exploring "us" again. I guess I am just anxious because I put myself out there for the first time and took a risk!!! It's only been a week....but I just want it to happen!!!! hehehe Edited April 19, 2011 by chickychickybowwow
Author chickychickybowwow Posted April 19, 2011 Author Posted April 19, 2011 A week is probably nothing, right? Maybe start worrying after 2 weeks? C'mon people!!!! I need feedback!!! Never put myself in this position before!
Fufu Posted April 19, 2011 Posted April 19, 2011 I think it is worth a second chance. Does he feel/think the same way? We were only together for 2 month 2 months together and he chose to leave the relationship? I would recommend don't wait around for him, if he really wants to be with you again, let him initiate the sincere contact and action to get you back. I hope you seek NC asap to move on.
Author chickychickybowwow Posted April 21, 2011 Author Posted April 21, 2011 Thank you for advice. We texted back and forth last night. Nothing came of it, except joking around. It went nowhere. Didn't even ask me what I was up to, just saying hi. I have decided to move on and maybe in time he will come around. I know he likes me, but I think he is just testing the waters. Maybe he isn't mature enough to be in this position. Only time will tell!!!
Author chickychickybowwow Posted May 3, 2011 Author Posted May 3, 2011 Well, it took 3 weeks for him to call me to tell me that he was thinking about me and we were long overdue to getting together. We met up at the beach for a few hours and then went to his place (we both live near the beach) for snacks and more talking. It went well. Just not sure what is going on in his head....I am not sure if I am in the friend zone or what....some of his comments sounded promising (saying we should do this or that sometime), but only time will tell. God, give me peace and serenity!!!! I haven't wanted something to work out soooo bad!!!!
Fufu Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 I just want to say don't rush into it. it's too early to tell.
Author chickychickybowwow Posted May 3, 2011 Author Posted May 3, 2011 I definitely know to be patient!!!! Just wish I could see where this ends up down the road! If you knew me, I always play it cool, he will never see me sweat! But if I go into the friend zone, I know I cannot be friends with him as I have too many feelings for him. I feel like I am a tortoise moving along slowly....
Author chickychickybowwow Posted May 9, 2011 Author Posted May 9, 2011 We went out on Saturday night!!!! We had a great time dancing and talking....I have no doubt that we have a chance, but only time will tell. We made out like teenagers, so much fun! Still thinking that he has hesitations, I actually think he feels that he is out of my league. He is a very special person...just wish he would see that! I am again being patient!!!
Author chickychickybowwow Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 Well...I tried my best...he has made time with me only about once a month (4 months=4 times). He calls every 2 weeks probably so he can make sure I am still around and single. Anyway, he tells me how busy he is EVERY weekend for the next few weeks. Never makes plans with me when he calls. When he does make plans, he previously tells me he has no time. Like a game. I am a very nice person who has had enough. It is his loss. My second chance is over. I do not have his number anymore, it is erased, as it definitely made me realize that he is not a person I want in my life.
iceweasel6 Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Well...I tried my best...he has made time with me only about once a month (4 months=4 times). He calls every 2 weeks probably so he can make sure I am still around and single. Anyway, he tells me how busy he is EVERY weekend for the next few weeks. Never makes plans with me when he calls. When he does make plans, he previously tells me he has no time. Like a game. I am a very nice person who has had enough. It is his loss. My second chance is over. I do not have his number anymore, it is erased, as it definitely made me realize that he is not a person I want in my life. Have you ever said to him in plain english: "John (replace John with his name), look, we having been seeing each other for 2 months. I like you a lot, and you are the person that I can see myself dating in an exclusive relationship. What are your thoughts?" or did you leave subtle hints and expect him to read between the lines? Question: when you go grocery shopping, do you pick the items you want or wait for someone to come by and read your mind and try to pick your items for you? Point: If you want something - open your mouth - say what you want and let it be known in plain english - no guessing games, no mind reading. Say it.
Author chickychickybowwow Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 I have made it VERY clear how I felt when I re-established a connection with him. I put myself out there--either he doesn't feel the same way or he plain doesn't get it. I will not chase after him and beg him to spend time with me. He has given me the opportunity to also second guess why I revisited "us". We have not spoken for 3 weeks, as he is soooo busy. So, this time with no contact has made me realize that this is just not going to happen. I appreciate your advice, but maybe I don't want to know the answer because it may not be the one I want to hear. But actions do speak louder than words and I am not getting either.
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