MakingChanges Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 I have seen similar post to the one I'm abou to express but there was never a real answer or one that really made sense at all!! So me and my ex broke up after a couple years well about a couple weeks into our relationship she deleted me and a family member off her Facebook. Well the family member said somethig about us on one of her pictures and I think it just bugged her she still has my 3 brothers and mother on her facebook. Well she stopped anything with me then and so did I I wouldn't contact her for anything but the strangest thing happened she played a game against me that u can do on our two phones! I know she has played with other ppl though the week an half she didn't play me! But my question really is why couldn't she just resign the game or wait and let it resign on itself bc it does after a certain amount of days! Why did she play bc really it seems lime a form Of communication! I haven't played her back since she played me 6 days ago I have thoughts that I should and see if she plays back sooner than b4 but not to sure! She also broke NC another way and me having to meet her for like a brief second but that seemed odd to bc her sister needed something out my car and she wasn't around to get it so they told me to leave my car unlocked so my ex could get it out! I guess she didn't want to see me then but it's odd she wanted to meet to get this other stuff! What could any of this mean and what should I do!!!!!! Im not over thinking things or making things bigger than what they are I'm just being honest about what's gone on! No mountains out of bread crumbs so domt think that just want to have advice what should do and what u think is going on bc none of us know but really her!
timchambo Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 She is just making sure you'll jump when she says jump. Time to man up and make her play by your rules. The only game you got is NC. I hate to term it a game, since there really is no room for games when your going through this. I don't know the conditions of your breakup, but chances are moving on is the only option. You know this so just do it. Trust me I know its hard =/ Exchange all property as quickly and cleanly as possible and move on.
Chi townD Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 BINGO!!!! You answered your own question. No one knows whats going through her mind but herself. Now, you were pretty vague in what happened with your relationship but I'll give it a go. You said there aren't any breadcrumbs, but there are. You stated that you played a game on the phone with her. Now, I take it that you two played this game with each a lot when you two where dating. Now, you're broken up...but, she played with you the other day. You gave her a moment where she might have had fun with you, where she felt comfortable with you, you pacified a moment to where she may have been missing you, and she got her quick fix. As far as getting something out of your car, well...I didn't quite understand what you were saying, but maybe her sister was trying to find an excuse for the two of you to talk or perhaps she wanted to see you and see how you were doing; if you were taking care of yourself, to see if she didn't leave you a quievering mess.....again. speculation.
Author MakingChanges Posted April 18, 2011 Author Posted April 18, 2011 Well the break up now seems odd like she really has been god sent for more but we are both Christians like her parents are pastors but I feel we deteriated bc we pretty much just lived a sinful relationship an I believe that through Christ he took her away from me bc I was a stray from god bc really I focused on her and not him way too much about sex and other things! Sinful things is what we fought about! So god has given me signs to make myself better but not to give up through my reading through the bible idk if y'all are religious but the bible is really where you find alot of answers I just wondered if anyone been through this type of communication! Well no her sister left from school and needed some stuff out my car like softball stuff. Well her sister left and forgot to get it so she contacted me and was like if I could leave it in my car and leave my car unlocked so my ex could get it out! It was like they made it to wear I would leave it so my ex didn't have to see me! Her sister wouldn't set her up so we could see eachother or anything! Her sister tries to controll her and can when I'm Not around! Well anyways I didnt unlock it in time and when I went to my car she pulled up so I gave it to her with no words in exchange! Well I see her that Sunday at church and ahe doesn't even speak to me a bit and it was a but confusing bc it wasn't like her to do that! Well that following Tuesday she played that game against me! She won't physically communicate with me but will over a game then she text me the next day after that about something I told he I would pay her back for when we were together! Well it was a casual talk not demanding chit chat between us well I met her the next day to give her 50 bucks well it was a casual conversation! Not long but I kept it short and everything and she would try not to look at me in the eyes I felt like she wanted to say something but she wouldn't so I kept my cool and acted like nothing special! It was weird bc just that Sunday we walked pat each other and nothing she wouldn't look or speak to me Not a wave or nothing but then 4 days later she wants me to meet her to give money that we already discussed about 3 weeks after our break up so she waited till then odd!!!! Friends and family say if she really didn't want anything to do with me than 50 bucks isn't worth seeing someone you have feelings for and all that which now seem true why would she? Then I went to a concert this weekend well during this week her sister asked a friend of mine if I would be at our church softball games and my friend was like idk he is going to a Lil Wagner concert and my friend told me my ex was like "Really" like in a surprised way thatbi would be doing something like that! Wether she was concerned what I was doing or what idk!!! But all seeming odd right now! I'm not jumping when she says I haven't eve played the game with her bc she won't controll me I don't think it's right to move on like to another girl I have moved on with myself to realize what I do and don't need in a relationship and it's all coming together but I won't let her controll me. It's crazy because the game we could play is a word game and I had two words that I can play "Leave or Love" how ironic!!
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