I feel like my ex doesn't really know!!!

[MakingChanges]

Lately have been getting stronger in myself and being able to work on my emotions and not anything else and how I feel! Well while thinking I have thought that my ex doesn't really know how much I care for her. Like when we broke up I begged and pleaded that I loved her and she meant everythig to me and all that other bull that comes with an initial break up! But lately I have thought about it and it goes beyond that!

 

If my ex were to get in a tragic accident like anything bad happen to her like burns all over her body or paralyzed forever or she had a problem where she couldn't have kids or could have sex I would still be the man to stand by her side and take care of her everyday. Tell he she is beautiful everyday and still want to show her off to the world! Because it's her as a person I have fell in love with no matter what people would sy or what she would think to me she would still be the most perfect thing in this world and still no ther girl would compare to her! I'm 19 she is 21 and I would drop everything being a college kid with tons of girls she would still be my number 1! Looks or anything wouldn't change that! Even if it happened while we were broken up I would still try my hardest to make things right and prove to her I'm the man she needs I wouldn't give up trying because of looks being altered or a life changing medical problem!!

 

I'm in NC right now and she has brome it twice for some little things but I have been sticking to it for a couple weeks ever since se delete me off her Facebook and all our pictures but I was just trying to get peoples inout should I tell her this at all or should I leave it! I mean I wouldn't be using this as a tool to get her back because I don't want a girl to come back bc of words but bc she loves me to, I know she loves me were together 3 years and she told me all the time special things about us marrying and children even days b4 break up! Well I would like to know what I should do about this I just want her to know my love from that sand point not from ur my everything and all that!

 

Also me working to get her back is me doing NC and making myself a better person and I have done that alot especially through Christ! He has been my shoulder the whole way through! I don't expect her to come back I won't set myself up for rejection but I'm setting myself up through Christ and better days!!!! So what y'all think!!!

[TaraMaiden]

Lately have been getting stronger in myself and being able to work on my emotions and not anything else and how I feel! Well while thinking I have thought that my ex doesn't really know how much I care for her. Like when we broke up I begged and pleaded that I loved her and she meant everythig to me and all that other bull that comes with an initial break up! But lately I have thought about it and it goes beyond that!

Remember, it's just you who feels this way, not her.

It's all one-sided, and as such, because of that - and because you have broken up - it means diddly-squat.

 

If my ex were to get in a tragic accident like anything bad happen to her like burns all over her body or paralyzed forever or she had a problem where she couldn't have kids or could have sex I would still be the man to stand by her side and take care of her everyday. Tell he she is beautiful everyday and still want to show her off to the world! Because it's her as a person I have fell in love with no matter what people would sy or what she would think to me she would still be the most perfect thing in this world and still no ther girl would compare to her! I'm 19 she is 21 and I would drop everything being a college kid with tons of girls she would still be my number 1! Looks or anything wouldn't change that! Even if it happened while we were broken up I would still try my hardest to make things right and prove to her I'm the man she needs I wouldn't give up trying because of looks being altered or a life changing medical problem!!

Right... well, as this obviously hasn't happened, and she doesn't need this, and frankly as it's complete and total imaginary hypothesis - it's really quite useless pointing this out.

It really doesn't matter what you WOULD do... It's what you didn't do. That's why you broke up.

Obviously, something was wrong, so all this wonderful intention is completely irrelevant.

Right now, it's a no brainer, because she doesn't need it, and you're broken up.

 

I'm in NC right now and she has brome it twice for some little things but I have been sticking to it for a couple weeks ever since se delete me off her Facebook and all our pictures but I was just trying to get peoples inout should I tell her this at all or should I leave it!

Leave it.

no really - seriously - don't even think about saying it.

 

I mean I wouldn't be using this as a tool to get her back because I don't want a girl to come back bc of words but bc she loves me to, I know she loves me were together 3 years and she told me all the time special things about us marrying and children even days b4 break up!

She can blow sweet nothings in your ear for as long as you want.

Acrtions speak louder than words, and right now, her actions indicate that she doesn't want you in her life, and has gone so far as to delete you off FB, meaning that she doesn't want to know you, or anything about you.

 

Well I would like to know what I should do about this I just want her to know my love from that sand point not from ur my everything and all that!

And if you tell her, she will see you as needy, immature, desperate and will consider your attempts to communicate pathetic and pitiful.

 

Trust me on this.....I'm deadly serious.

 

Also me working to get her back is me doing NC and making myself a better person and I have done that alot especially through Christ! He has been my shoulder the whole way through! I don't expect her to come back I won't set myself up for rejection but I'm setting myself up through Christ and better days!!!! So what y'all think!!!

I think you should focus on using NC in the way it's meant to be used - to get over her, not to get her back.

 

I also think you should use far fewer exclamation marks.

Way too many.....

[MakingChanges]

I appreciate all you had to say it was well taken. I mean of course it's things that I need to hear. I don't believe we broke up on bad terms bc she kept telling me if I see a change we can have something in the future. She always told me she wanted me to ask her to marry her even days before the break up so it's all confusing! In a way I think this isn't her bc she is easily controlled by her family and that's honest so I feel they pressured her and got n her head cause on the day of the break up she wanted me to bring her lunch and chill and I couldn't and that night she went out with her mom and I think a sister so it all happened after that! Really odd. But thanks...

 

More advice is welcomed everyone is different in aspects. We all have views and we all know people that were in our lives better than others but advice helps!

 

I love explanation points!!!!!!!

[TaraMaiden]

that's 'exclamation marks'.....

 

You're 19.

 

I know this is going to sound patronising, but you really haven't a great deal of experience, so if you'd like to learn quick, and do things right, listen to others.

 

I'm old enough to be your mother, and have been round the block more times than I'd care to admit.

 

If her family is controlling, that's the way they're always going to be. You can't change them - and you can't change her.

Only she can break free from their control, and she's young too, so don't hold your breath.

Just accept - it's not going anywhere.

Leave it be, move on, and know that someone more compatible will come along.

[MakingChanges]

Yea I know oh trust me my mother and all my motherly family members have talked to me about it even ones that have been though this but got back together so I have had views from every type of thing that could happen from it!

 

And ya there pastors so they are a little bit controlling and I was always her rock to make her break away but once I wasn't around there they go taking advantage of her and she would notice when it went to far but then again it was like she didn't want to let them sown even though they just make her do alot more than her other family members bc they knew she wouldn't turn them down!!

 

Yea I'm 19 but deep down I feel older iv gone through alot at my age you know I was getting ready to ask her to marry her! Iv been the sane kid iv done alot with my life and she was always there telling me no matte what hardship I had she would be there for me! She always was and I took advantage of it! Iv learned everything iv done wrong and iv made my mends with myself and god! He has been showing me the road and iv seen signs for me to get better with him but not give up on my dreams!

 

I feel so much more confident and stronger now I'm living through him! We Came to college together and I feel better. I just want to know if she misses me really! Like I said I'm not waiting around or getting my hopes up I'm doing me really ha. That's what I'm best at not to let someone controll me I'm letting the lord use me.