dla0519 Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 I was on here last summer because my bf and I broke up. We made up and he moved in with me and my kids in November. We were so happy. Till I told him that I was just too tired to go out on Friday nights. It is the only night he likes to go out. So we agreed he would go out without me every other Friday. So he went that Friday and then on Tuesday sent me an email at work saying that he was meeting an ex gf Friday night at a bar to fix her daughters laptop. I told him I did not like that idea and that it was suppose to be our Friday night home and it started a fight. He packed up some things and went to his moms. He came over Saturday to get a few things and the first thing he did was hug me and lead me to the bedroom where one thing led to another. Then we started talking and he told me he moved in too quickly and he needs to get his own place but wants to spend weekends with me but we won't be a "couple" and he will see other people. I feel so used right now. Why would he want to string me along like that if he loves me and misses me? If you love and miss someone then you want to work it out right?
Irishlove Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 I was on here last summer because my bf and I broke up. We made up and he moved in with me and my kids in November. We were so happy. Till I told him that I was just too tired to go out on Friday nights. It is the only night he likes to go out. So we agreed he would go out without me every other Friday. So he went that Friday and then on Tuesday sent me an email at work saying that he was meeting an ex gf Friday night at a bar to fix her daughters laptop. I told him I did not like that idea and that it was suppose to be our Friday night home and it started a fight. He packed up some things and went to his moms. He came over Saturday to get a few things and the first thing he did was hug me and lead me to the bedroom where one thing led to another. Then we started talking and he told me he moved in too quickly and he needs to get his own place but wants to spend weekends with me but we won't be a "couple" and he will see other people. I feel so used right now. Why would he want to string me along like that if he loves me and misses me? If you love and miss someone then you want to work it out right? Oh heck no! He just wants you to be his lay once in a while. No way. No couple and see other people. You have just become a fk buddy. Tell him to pack sand and find another sucker. Good luck and take care of you.
Author dla0519 Posted April 18, 2011 Author Posted April 18, 2011 I told him that I didn't want to be a friend with benefits and he said that is not what it is. On another note, his marriage was open so I think that is what he wants.
Irishlove Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 I told him that I didn't want to be a friend with benefits and he said that is not what it is. On another note, his marriage was open so I think that is what he wants. Honey, that's what you are. If you're ok with that then go for it. He can't be faithful obviously. You should have better.
Author dla0519 Posted April 18, 2011 Author Posted April 18, 2011 You are right. I can't do that it will hurt more. I rather hurt now and cut contact than drag the hurt out.
SingVoice Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Seriously..this is bad. Why does HE get to see other people? Would he be ok with you seeing other people? Being on his own is just code for "I want to f** other people and keep you on the back burner in case it doesn't work out." You are better than this. See what his reaction is when you kick his butt out and go NC on him. It'll drive him crazy.
Author dla0519 Posted April 18, 2011 Author Posted April 18, 2011 He has most of his things at my house still but is not staying there. Do you really think going NC on him will drive him nuts?
tyler123 Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Going NC- will make him think and make him curious and confused. That is a guarantee- i think if you are dealing with a selfish person that usually just thinks of themself- NC will not effect them for week one- but by week 2 you will get bread crumb texts or calls. the truth is NC always has worked for me for healing, but be careful too many times i have caved in and they have come back in to my life, but after a week or 2 of them appearing and appearing wanting to be with you- the same dance will always happen- i have learned after my 4yrs of yo- yo, in and out, rollercoaster dance - A TIGER DOES NOT CHANGE IT'S STRIPES if you want to meet a better person that deserves what you can offer and add more than what your getting- go NC to 1) Heal 2) let them fester for once -that's there issue to deal with not yours to spell out If you want to continue to dance with the tiger- go NC until you feel they have truly understood the disrespect they have given- THEY WILL BURN YOU AGAIN
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