Ex left me for another guy?

[easthusker]

Ok, this is gonna be a long one, so if you can bear with me and make it through the whole thing, I commend you.

First off let me start by saying that I am one of those guys who will do anything to make a girl happy. I'm the sweet guy who will say things to make you feel a thousand times better. Now that I got that out of the way here is what happened.

My ex and I had been together for about a month. (yes I know that's not long, but i loved every second of it) Things were going great, we were talking every day, texting each other when we weren't in school or at work, and having fun together. On a Wednesday she was over at my place, and told me that we had to have a semi-serious convo. That long story short, she basically told me how we could make it past 2-3 months together. That night I was supposed to go out with friends, but found out that there were drugs involved so I didn't go. I went back home and was talking to her through facebook. She was with one of her friends and really didn't seem like she wanted to talk to me. So finally said that I didn't want to be a burden so I was going to head off to bed. She responded "ok". That made me pretty mad. I don't know, for some reason I took it as she thought I was being a burden and didn't care what I was doing. So the next day, Thursday, we texted all morning, and then I brought up how mad the previous night had made me. We exchanged a few texts, and didn't talk for the rest of the day/night, but I did send a good night text. The next morning I'm at work, and I send her a good morning text. The thing I got back, was no where near what I was expecting. The first line was, "I wanna break up". It devastated me. She said we weren't clicking, eventhough 2 days before she had told me how we could manage to get through her 2-3 month deal. Some friends had told me that there was probably another guy, and I didn't want to believe them because she felt so strongly about cheating. I texted her every day for a week, I know you're not supposed to do that, but I couldn't help it. Finally she told me I was pushing her away, so I stopped texting her for a week. I sent her a text this past Saturday seeing what she was up to. All of her answers were short and I could tell she really didn't want to talk to me. Then yesterday night, I decided I would just check out her facebook. She de-friended me when she broke up with me, so all i can see is her relationship status, some pictures, as well as some other basic info. Her relationship status had changed to in a relationship with this guy. That is 16 days after we broke up, however his facebook says something different. Yes I checked his facebook, sue me. His facebook says that he was in a relationship 11 days after we broke up. I was just in utter shock. How could someone who seemed so right for me, do something like that to me? The worst part is, I know that if they break up, I will text her again to see if she wants to meet up. I don't know that will probably change over time, but that's how I feel right now. And all my friends keep telling me the same things. "girls come and go", "she doesn't deserve you", "she doesn't know how great of a guy she let go", "move on, she is a f-ing c***", "time will make it better". And none of them saying that help. I just have a hard time letting go of things, and when you spend every waking moment talking to someone for a month, and things couldn't have been better, than that just makes it even tougher.

[whoknowswhattodo]

Ok, this is gonna be a long one, so if you can bear with me and make it through the whole thing, I commend you.

First off let me start by saying that I am one of those guys who will do anything to make a girl happy. I'm the sweet guy who will say things to make you feel a thousand times better. Now that I got that out of the way here is what happened.

My ex and I had been together for about a month. (yes I know that's not long, but i loved every second of it) Things were going great, we were talking every day, texting each other when we weren't in school or at work, and having fun together. On a Wednesday she was over at my place, and told me that we had to have a semi-serious convo. That long story short, she basically told me how we could make it past 2-3 months together. That night I was supposed to go out with friends, but found out that there were drugs involved so I didn't go. I went back home and was talking to her through facebook. She was with one of her friends and really didn't seem like she wanted to talk to me. So finally said that I didn't want to be a burden so I was going to head off to bed. She responded "ok". That made me pretty mad. I don't know, for some reason I took it as she thought I was being a burden and didn't care what I was doing. So the next day, Thursday, we texted all morning, and then I brought up how mad the previous night had made me. We exchanged a few texts, and didn't talk for the rest of the day/night, but I did send a good night text. The next morning I'm at work, and I send her a good morning text. The thing I got back, was no where near what I was expecting. The first line was, "I wanna break up". It devastated me. She said we weren't clicking, eventhough 2 days before she had told me how we could manage to get through her 2-3 month deal. Some friends had told me that there was probably another guy, and I didn't want to believe them because she felt so strongly about cheating. I texted her every day for a week, I know you're not supposed to do that, but I couldn't help it. Finally she told me I was pushing her away, so I stopped texting her for a week. I sent her a text this past Saturday seeing what she was up to. All of her answers were short and I could tell she really didn't want to talk to me. Then yesterday night, I decided I would just check out her facebook. She de-friended me when she broke up with me, so all i can see is her relationship status, some pictures, as well as some other basic info. Her relationship status had changed to in a relationship with this guy. That is 16 days after we broke up, however his facebook says something different. Yes I checked his facebook, sue me. His facebook says that he was in a relationship 11 days after we broke up. I was just in utter shock. How could someone who seemed so right for me, do something like that to me? The worst part is, I know that if they break up, I will text her again to see if she wants to meet up. I don't know that will probably change over time, but that's how I feel right now. And all my friends keep telling me the same things. "girls come and go", "she doesn't deserve you", "she doesn't know how great of a guy she let go", "move on, she is a f-ing c***", "time will make it better". And none of them saying that help. I just have a hard time letting go of things, and when you spend every waking moment talking to someone for a month, and things couldn't have been better, than that just makes it even tougher.

 

I know what your saying my ex blocked me and added her ex bf on fb. I'm on day 6 of nc and that was the last time I've seen her in person. Idk how these girls can be so in love then in a flash they're gone. I was like you for 9 months and she threw it all away. My friends say the same things to me that yours do. I'm just like you, the nice guy. Why we always get sh*t on idk? I'm just hopeing mine comes back.

[Chi townD]

Okay, you need to go NC. Period! She was cheating on you for that month. You don't go from being in a relationship with someone to breaking up and being in another relationship a little more than a week later with someone else that quickly unless some inappropriate stuff was going on while she was with you. Let her go. I have a feeling once she realizes that you are not keeping tabs on her, she'll start texting and calling. Ignore it and go find a nice girl that won't treat you like that.

[guccimane99]

Alright bud you sound exactly like me. U go out of your where for your gf and funny thing i had the exact same similar thing happen to me back in december. Im gonna give u what happend and then tell u what i did. Dated for a month for our one month gave her a candle light dinner and took her to the movies she broke up with me like 3 or 4 days later. Funny thing was the next day she hung out with her ex bf and i flipped. I went no contact and she felt like **** we saw each other 2 days after i was smiling she saw me and her head went straight down. She texted me after saying that was horrible. I laughed in my head saying what do u think everything was going to be okay. So we started i broke it told her i gave u 5 days to see what life was like without me. We started getting back into it we kissed like 6 times the next day in the hallway. Then i saw her walking out and talked to her she told me that she was hanging out with this guy and it was no big deal they were "just friends" and not to worry so i worried. Well bud u could guess it she is dating him now. I moved on and started dating someone else we broke up because she didn't have time for me. Honestly, buddy watch the movie swingers it helped me alot. She is a fool and she will realize it ONE DAY. Only thing u can do is move on don't settle for friends.

[easthusker]

Thanks for all the replies and advice guys.

I have started to move on, if she wants to be with another guy instead of me, well then she missed out. I'm a big believer in karma. What goes around comes around. One day he will do the same thing to her, and then guess who she is probably gonna call. The only way I will ever take her back is if we talk in person and she admits to it without me having to put the pressure on for her to tell the truth, and if she can deal with me having no trust in her for awhile. In the mean time working out constantly, work, and hanging out with my friends has really helped me out. I'll keep everyone updated on here about everything that's goin on with me if anyone really cares.