pierremagus Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Hi everyone, I am dating a girl and I have been on a date with her 6 times. Well, the two dates were amazing and I kissed her on the third date... then she became distant. we talked about it yesterday and she told me that she just broke up 3 months ago from a one year relationship.. and that she wants to take things slow. She said that she likes seeing me and hanging out with me, but she wants to know me better and doesn't want to make the same mistake as the past. But she said that I should not be expecting anything to be hurt at the end... What should I do? Move on.. or keep on seeing her without expecting anything? Should I "back off", not asking her out anymore and wait for her to come to me? I also plan to make dinner for her just to hang out... is it a good idea? She said yes to that... Thanks!
easthusker Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 It seems like she was hurt pretty bad in the last relationship, and doesn't want that to happen again. I would just keep going out with her, and show her that you wont hurt her. If you keep asking her out and she keeps saying yes, I take that as she is still very interested in you. Good luck.
carhill Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 But she said that I should not be expecting anything to be hurt at the end.. Date women who *never* say this. Trust me.
zengirl Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 I wouldn't go out with a guy who was in that emotional place. Sounds like nothing but trouble. More drama than I care to indulge in, at least.
Mrlonelyone Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Sounds like she's not ready to be dating and will "hurt" the next man that comes along, a classic rebound. Now it does not have to be that way, and her wanting to go slow means she's trying not to do that to you. Here's the thing.... date her but treat it ultra casually. Take it slow by also dating someone else ultracasually. That way if it goes south you haven't invested much. Don't invest in someone who won't invest in you.
chuckles11 Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 The comment about you getting hurt at the end is a huge red flag. If you get involved seriously with her, I would say the potential for melodrama is high. Also, the comments about taking things slow and not expecting anything would make me question her interest level.
Hules Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Me personally would not have anything more to do with this girl. Obviously not ready for a relationship and is using you as a band aid/rebound to avoid dealing with the pain of her last relationship. My guess she is still pining for her ex, I would not settle for been number two. Thats just me though.
Jazzari Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 But she said that I should not be expecting anything to be hurt at the end... Listen to what she said and believe her.
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