LoveBug1989 Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 First story Second chance Well I didn't think my ex would contact me again after heartlessly dumping me a second time. However I got a text message from him saying "when do you come back" as in California (I return to California next month and he knows this). When I recognized the phone number, I felt sick. Following that text, I got a series of long messages from him saying "I know you must hate me...I cant ask you to forgive me for what i did....I betrayed you...." ect. To which I responded that he needed to grow in his life and figure out who he was and what will make him happy in his life. I told him he had been a special part of my life but we needed to move on for both our sakes. He then proceeded to try and guilt me back into getting back together with him. "I will never forget you..." "I got laid off at my job" "I thought you were the one"....ect...... When I made it clear that we could not get back together, that he had hurt me too much with his lying and his broken promises, he immediately turned to saying cruel things like "Well I thought you saw through my flaws but I guess I was wrong" and "you can say 'live life to the fullest' but speak for yourself...i tried that and it hurts", and in the last text message I read, he said he was going to vanish from my life and burn the handpainted Christmas and birthday cards I made him (mind you, he never gave me a gift for my birthday). That was when I turned off my phone so I couldn't be hurt by what he was saying anymore. I'll delete all his messages without reading them tomorrow and hopefully be able to block his number so he can't keep contacting me. I just can't believe that the person I shared intimate parts of my life with and myself with, the same person I invested so much trust and loyalty into, just turned into this ugly, mean, manipulative person I don't recognize. Trying to keep moving on....
Candi-Anne Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 I do this to my boyfriend all the time... I didn't realise how much it hurst, your post has taught me the other side of the story I dont have any advice but now I know what im putting him through every time I finish him over nothing and will think twice before I do it anymore. Your doing great by the way with saying your moving on... the only problem is by saying that - it makes him want you more (well this is what my boyfriend does with me and it makes me panic that i'm really going to loose him forever) this is why he keeps texting these things. Then hes getting angry and saying mean things (Like i do lol) because hes furstrated as hes hurt by u saying ur going to move on etc. I know this because I do it all the time. I call him every name under the sun because I want him to stop saying hes happy to move on. It doesnt work... he ends up saying hurtfull things too then we agree to 'be friends' next min were together again :') ... but thats us were very messed up. I hope you find happiness shortly x
Author LoveBug1989 Posted April 21, 2011 Author Posted April 21, 2011 Your doing great by the way with saying your moving on... the only problem is by saying that - it makes him want you more (well this is what my boyfriend does with me and it makes me panic that i'm really going to loose him forever) this is why he keeps texting these things. Then hes getting angry and saying mean things (Like i do lol) because hes furstrated as hes hurt by u saying ur going to move on etc. I know this because I do it all the time. I call him every name under the sun because I want him to stop saying hes happy to move on. It doesnt work... he ends up saying hurtfull things too then we agree to 'be friends' next min were together again :') ... but thats us were very messed up. I hope you find happiness shortly x Thanks....yeah, I felt that maybe I should't text him back, but I felt that I needed to get it off my chest and make sure he knew that he couldn't just pop back into my life again and expect me to come back when his new girl wasn't working out. I think he may have also been drunk when he was texting those things, too. When I looked at my phone the next morning, he said "I couldn't bring myself to burn your cards....I has no more cheezeburger " (wtf??) and then sent me a picture of his paintball helmet. His last text mentioned that me texting him was "helping him alot" and that he hoped "you will be with me when I fix my problems". Haven't heard from him since that night. Sigh.....
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