Lilmisus Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 So, there's this new guy who's been working with me for about a little over a week now. Looks wise, not my type at all (half Asian, and reminds me of my older brother too much, but he's pretty cute), but personality wise, he's pretty awesome..which is all that really matters to me anyway. I've known for the past couple of days that I liked him. Mainly due to the fact that I was looking forward to work for the first time in a while because I knew he'd be working, and he's an awesome person to talk to. But him and I are constantly talking, joking around and whatnot, and it just makes for a great time. He takes my mind off of my ex completely, which is a pretty good sign, I suppose. But today, he started showing signs that he liked me too (or, better signs I should say). A couple off the top of my head were: We were slammed today, and regardless of that fact, he would come up to talk to me, and basically make obvious excuses for being there (count someone else's money without realizing it wasn't his, talk to me about something irrelevant, ask me to do something little for him that he could have done himself, etc..); or do little things just so that he could say my name or talk to me. The entire time, and each time he'd come up, he'd be smiling like a fool (as was I) and laughing over everything. At the end of the night, well I was taking care of his stuff, him and I were joking around about something for a good five minutes, and were just there laughing and goofing around. When he walked away, I started doing more of my work, and my manager told me that he talked to me more right then than he has to anyone else there. I told her that him and I have been talking for the entire week since he started. She asked if he has a girlfriend (unsure), and how I felt about him. I told her that I didn't want to date anyone else there, since working with one ex is bad enough, let alone working with two (or having a boyfriend and an ex work with me). Plus, the fact that I asked my ex to not date anyone else there out of respect for me, and told him I would do the same. She said that it was obvious he liked me, and said I should pursue him, and that it was silly to say no to dating someone else there (which I don't think it is). I joked around with my other manager soon after about how the one said she thought he liked me, and she said she knew he did. Apparently, he went back to the back and started telling some of his guy friends about what we were talking about and all this stuff, and the way he was saying it made it obvious he has a thing for me. She said I should go after him too. I really just don't know what to do right now. I know without a doubt I like him, but I also know I don't want to put myself through this whole dating a coworker thing again. I'm also pretty sure that he told my ex that he liked me, since they talk a lot, and because my ex was encouraging me to be okay with dating someone else there, but he refused to say who it was that was interested (this was a week ago). But, I'm also still strongly considering quitting, and if I did, then I would have no issue dating him at all, and I'd go for it without a second thought. But what do you guys think I should do? Go after him, find someone else who I don't work with, or just quit and not worry about dating him as a coworker?
lovingADove Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Seems that the whole office is now into this 'secret'... Regardless of what you do now, I can sense some interesting office conversations/drama(not necessarily in a negative sense) in the near future ... Just go with your heart ... but, be ready for it to go either way ... things that move too fast ... generate big roller coasters...
Author Lilmisus Posted April 18, 2011 Author Posted April 18, 2011 Seems that the whole office is now into this 'secret'... Regardless of what you do now, I can sense some interesting office conversations/drama(not necessarily in a negative sense) in the near future ... Just go with your heart ... but, be ready for it to go either way ... things that move too fast ... generate big roller coasters... Though it doesn't change what you're trying to say, just for clarification, it's at a restaurant. And I doubt everyone is in on the "secret" that we like each other, especially since it's only being assumed that he likes me, and I've only told one coworker that I liked him, which was yesterday (and she said that she thought he liked me back). To my managers, I said that I was unsure but that he was cute. But I do agree that this will make for conversation starters among coworkers..to which I'm worried about. We only broke up a month ago, and people are still talking about our breakup. Throw on top of there that I'm dating the new guy - people will probably go crazy with all the gossip. I just wish I knew what to do, or what will lead to the least amount of consequences, and the most happiness for all those involved. Date him, or don't date him?
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