guitarguy89 Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 if my ex gf that dumped me started the no contact by blocking me on facebook and not picking up the phone does that mean that NC wont work or is less likely too work since the dumper is the one that started it? She also delted all of my family members she had on her facebook. P.S all of this happened about a month ago, i know it needs more time then that but we was together for 3 years.
Hopeless Girl Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 if my ex gf that dumped me started the no contact by blocking me on facebook and not picking up the phone does that mean that NC wont work or is less likely too work since the dumper is the one that started it? She also delted all of my family members she had on her facebook. P.S all of this happened about a month ago, i know it needs more time then that but we was together for 3 years. Na its the same.. u have to do the same .. why did she break up with u anyways?
D-Lish Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 The very first thing I did when I got home after my bf dumped me was delete him and his friends from fb. You just can't have that looming over you regardless of whether or not you got dumped or did the dumping.
Author guitarguy89 Posted April 18, 2011 Author Posted April 18, 2011 Na its the same.. u have to do the same .. why did she break up with u anyways? I think she had a case of the grass is greener because she started to act different about a month before she left and started to talking about leaving and i didnt think she acually would, she also started to talk to her cousin which is the same age as her alot during this time so i think that had something to do with it. We lived toegther and everything and when she moved out she moved in with her counsin and aunt. shes just 18 but she said the classic i love you but im not in love with you and that i was controlling and she felt like a prisoner and all the classic signs, Yeah we fought alot but nothing that was ever big, I could of been easier on her and not been so jealous but thats just me, and she knew i was like this from the start and still stuck around for 3 years. I never cheated or beat on her and i dont drink/smoke/do drugs or anything like that, I dont really know what more she could ask for thats why it hurts so much, Im not gonna contact her, i dont really have a choice because im blocked from everything, I just hope and pray that over time all this gets out of her system and she will try to contact me and wanna work on things, but im trying to move on as if she will never come back, but i will always have that little bit of hope (Even though i dont wanna have any hope at all at this point).
Hopeless Girl Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 I think she had a case of the grass is greener because she started to act different about a month before she left and started to talking about leaving and i didnt think she acually would, she also started to talk to her cousin which is the same age as her alot during this time so i think that had something to do with it. We lived toegther and everything and when she moved out she moved in with her counsin and aunt. shes just 18 but she said the classic i love you but im not in love with you and that i was controlling and she felt like a prisoner and all the classic signs, Yeah we fought alot but nothing that was ever big, I could of been easier on her and not been so jealous but thats just me, and she knew i was like this from the start and still stuck around for 3 years. I never cheated or beat on her and i dont drink/smoke/do drugs or anything like that, I dont really know what more she could ask for thats why it hurts so much, Im not gonna contact her, i dont really have a choice because im blocked from everything, I just hope and pray that over time all this gets out of her system and she will try to contact me and wanna work on things, but im trying to move on as if she will never come back, but i will always have that little bit of hope (Even though i dont wanna have any hope at all at this point). so what if she stuck for 3 years and she knew how u were... so why did all the arguments start anyways? relationships are not perfect but if u knew what was causing the arguments u shouldve changed ur controlling behavior or at least try.. nobody likes to fight ... all relationships i know that theres a jealous partner end up in break up ALL OF THEM! unless ur both a sick unhealthy couple that just love to live that way.. it'll eventuallyy eat u up inside... anyways .. just next time try not to be so controlling
Eddie Edirol Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 NC is not for you to get her back, NC is for you to heal and forget about her. If she is deleting you from facebook, she wants no part of you.
Author guitarguy89 Posted April 18, 2011 Author Posted April 18, 2011 My biggest concern is if the day comes that she wants to contact me, even though i dont think it will and i think we are done for good, but do you all think she will think she burnt too many bridges with my family even though they all love and miss her alot she may not think they think the same about her, or will love conquer all and she wont let any of that get in the way of trying to contact me somehow, I just wanna know what you all think, im slowly losing hope and NC has helped me alot im just talking hypothetically.
Fufu Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 No body will knows for sure. But when she broke up with you for real, for real she probably doesn't mind about burning bridges with you and your family. It doesn't matter how she think and feel anymore.
Author guitarguy89 Posted April 18, 2011 Author Posted April 18, 2011 Well tomorrow would be our 3 years, I wonder if she will even care? =(
Chi townD Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 You want honesty, probably not....But, you shouldn't either! Do yourself a favor and make plans for tomorrow night to help keep your mind off of it.
RogerNelson Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Guitarguy, I know how you're feeling. Right now you're all emotions. Accept that, but in a while you should try to use your head as well. I read a great book by dr Robert Faulker, about using your heart AND head, in four steps this amazing book helps you to mend a break-up, see for yourself at http://alturl.com/md37q.
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