mearl20 Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 A guy I met last month got my number at my friend's party. He was really cool and laid back and we texted a little. (Sorry this is long-you can skip to the end). Even though he is very laid back, he also loves to party (college sophomore) and seems to only text me either when he's drunk, bored or when he gets off work at 10:30. I almost feel like a booty call except we live an hour away and he never was really engaged in text conversations (never asked me questions) although he still texted me. Also, he didn't seem like a very forward guy either-so I don't think I was a booty call. I tried to hang out with him twice in person. The first time, I was in his town with his friends and he wanted to meet up that night-he was with some friends and was about to come meet with us. Although, my friends didn't want to so I never hung out with him- I kind of blew him off not on purpose. The second time was this weekend, when I was going to his town to visit some other friends and told him I would be down so we should hang out. He told me to text him when I was down. He also told me he was at a baseball game that was about 2 hours away and that he would drive back that night. Then I asked if he wanted to meet up in an hour and he said he wasn't back yet (this was 2 hours after the game was over) and he would text me when he got back. An hour later he never texted me and my friends wanted to go back home-so I texted him asking how far away he was because my friends were wondering and he never texted. This made me mad because he seemed so cool and was my type of guy. He seemed partially interested (I think) but now it makes me think he was leading me on the whole time. I keep thinking maybe something happened, or he was getting revenge on me from the first time-but I doubt it. I was never needy or annoying (from what I believe) so I'm really mad and confused. Was this guy leading me on the whole time? Any thoughts guys? Thanks! Any help is appreciated!
Eddie Edirol Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 He wasnt leading you on, he just wasnt interested enough to really engage in a real conversation. . it happens. You didnt waste any time with him, you can move on.
Author mearl20 Posted April 18, 2011 Author Posted April 18, 2011 Yeah I guess he didn't seem that interested-sometimes he did, like he would occasionally get into the conversation, always reply back and fast, and use lol's or similar text but that probably doesn't mean much. It's annoying too though because I really was interested-still kind of am.
lolo1234 Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 I agree with Eddie . He sounds like hes more interested in having a good time right now. You guys don't live in the same town either and it doesn't sound like he's willin to bridge that distance. Personally I don't travel more than 20 minutes To meet any guy whem i'm first gettimg to know him. He can come see me if he wants to.
Author mearl20 Posted April 18, 2011 Author Posted April 18, 2011 Yeah-he is a big partier from what it seems like as well as extremely laid back and that's pretty much how guys are in college-I shouldn't expect much. That's part of the reason I wanted to hang out as well so I could see his intentions, if he just wanted to hang out, or sees me as a booty call or is actually interested.
Author mearl20 Posted April 18, 2011 Author Posted April 18, 2011 I should mention that I told him if he wanted to he could drive up to my town whenever he wants and he told me "yeah i should lol".
Eddie Edirol Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 I should mention that I told him if he wanted to he could drive up to my town whenever he wants and he told me "yeah i should lol". Oof, thats a blowoff if I ever heard one.
Author mearl20 Posted April 18, 2011 Author Posted April 18, 2011 Is it? I never thought of it that way, especially because he told me when I first met him that he hates the town I'm in (which is fine-I don't really like it either) and the drive is horrible so maybe I overanalyzed and though of it as he wants to see me but hated the town-which would be a lame excuse anyways.
Author mearl20 Posted April 18, 2011 Author Posted April 18, 2011 Is it? I never thought of it that way, especially because he told me when I first met him that he hates the town I'm in (which is fine-I don't really like it either) and the drive is horrible so maybe I overanalyzed and though of it as he wants to see me but hated the town-which would be a lame excuse anyways. I'm really confused as to why he would still text me when he wasn't interested also. If he didn't care, why would he text back right away and even if there wasn't a lot to say?
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