ljpaterson Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 I made two dating profiles. One on PlentyofFish and one on OkCupid. I messaged a few guys that I really like at first and thought that was it. I was fine with them.. but now more keep messaging me. I gave two of them my number and we have been texting. Then I gave another one my number and I have been texting them also. The problem is, they all seem to REALLY like me! And we all talk about the same things mostly and I am getting them all mixed up with each other.... One guy that I really like even told me that he is ready to be in a relationship with me, even though I have never met him before! We have probably talked about 10 hours total through Skype and texting and the phone. I like his personality best so far, but I'm still not sure about him 100%. The problem is that I don't want to settle down with any of them yet. I want to keep my options open but I feel bad letting them know that I am dating around. Is it wrong of me to do this? Should I keep dating around until I find the guy that I like? My profile days that I am looking for a long term relationship. Which I am... just with the right person. Maybe I should change it to say I am just looking for dating? Thoughts anyone? How do you talk to all of these new guys at once???
Jazzari Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 I think you should date until you find the right one. Since you're not in a committed relationship, I see no reason to inform the men. You're on a dating site. The fact that you are dating various men should be obvious. I wouldn't change your profile. You ARE looking for a LTR, you just haven't found him yet. Saying that you just want to date would mean you have no interest in a LTR, IMO. I think you would attract the wrong kind of guys that way.
lolo1234 Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 When it gets to be too much just drop some of the guys that you might already start to feel may not be a good fit. It's tempting to keep them around for attention but it's not worth it in the end. You end up wasting their time and your own.
Eddie Edirol Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Watch out for guys that say they want a relationship with you before meeting you in person. You already notice they are moving fast, thats a red flag. Make sure they dont want to act like a boyfriend just to sleep with you and then bail. There is alot of that going on with the dating sites. Just be aware of how they act. if you meet any of these guys, dont go to each others places for at least the first 3 dates. You maybe want to make sure they really want a relationship first, or if they want to bang and run.
Author ljpaterson Posted April 18, 2011 Author Posted April 18, 2011 It also seems that they are all trying to add me on facebook. I've added a couple of them on facebook... should I delete the ones I am not interested in now? Oh yeah, and it also seems that they all try to text me all day every day. Between all of the attention they are giving me, I am finding it hard to concentrate on my work. And now it seems like when new ones try to contact me, I am already thinking "I have too many already to deal with." Even though some of the guys who are messaging me seem promising. I am just scared that if I finally decide to choose on one, the others I have been dating will be mad at me or feel cheated or something...
Author ljpaterson Posted April 18, 2011 Author Posted April 18, 2011 Like just right now I am having a problem! I am talking on Windows live messenger to one guy. He wants me to Skype with him. But I can't because I have another guy from the dating site who is supposed to call me in 15 minutes. I told the first guy I can't Skype because I am going to be busy here in about 15 minutes. He says "busy with what?" And then I said "going to be talking on the phone". And then, OF COURSE, he says "Talking on the phone to who?" It's REALLY aggravating! Should I just start lying to them when situations like this arise? I just lied and told him I was going to be talking on the phone to one of my friends.... I hate lying and am usually so against it...
threebyfate Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 If these guys live in your city, why haven't you gone out with them?
Duckduckgoose Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 I can barely handle one guy let alone 15. Get a notebook planner or something and schedule them lol Really I've never heard a woman complain about TOO MANY guys usually its NO MALE ATTENTIONS at all haha
Art_Critic Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 You might try only having one profile up at a time.. Oh.. and remove the topless shots.. that would help too
Author ljpaterson Posted April 18, 2011 Author Posted April 18, 2011 I am meeting one of them tomorrow. Haha. But there really aren't 15 of them. Only 4 that I really like at the moment. A couple others who are trying to casually talk to me through messaging still. It's just that a couple of them like to ask what I am doing at the moment when I try to talk to the other ones... I don't know how to explain that I am talking to 4 guys at once to each of them. x.x Oh, and no topless pictures. Haha.
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