jdub27 Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 I've been broken up for 3 days now from a very long-term relationship. I'm trying to stay active and busy, to avoid being depressed. It's working but I cannot eat anything! The thought of food disgusts me. I grabbed something very light, a turkey sandwich, and I had to force myself to swallow it, but with every bite I felt like throwing it back up each time. The last 24 hours I've only had a banana and some milk. I feel sluggish and I'm forcing myself to overload on coffee just so I have enough energy to get by.. What should I do? How long will this last?!
Hopeless Girl Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Careful. Try and have some protein shakes and eat ur breakfast but in small portions. Dont eat fast foods theyll just make u feel like crap. Drink water of coruse.
D-Lish Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 It takes a little time. This past month as I knew my relationship was slipping away, I barely ate or slept. I've lost so much weight. When I went through my divorce I lost 50lbs. I went down to 105lbs at one point because I just couldn't eat anything. My stress level was so high during that time, and I had constant butterflies which made it hard to force anything down. I could literally go a few days without eating anything - to the point where I felt faint and fatigued. I did eventually start to get my appetite back, but I kept losing weight regardless. Everything in my life seemed so out of control- so controlling my weight became my focus. I'd say the first 20 came off out of sadness, then the next 30 came off because I was clinging to the control I had over something when everything else seemed so out of control. I'm doing the same thing again with my recent break up- but I don't want to be 105lbs again- I looked awful then. I just cooked a great meal for myself and I'm just staring at it now not feeling like I want to have it. I'd suggest getting some boost in your fridge- you can sip your needed calories until your appetite returns. Your focus should be on staying healthy right now. I guarantee your appetite will resurface, but 3 days out is still so fresh. Go and get that boost in your fridge!
poorguy Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Drink protein shakes for nutrition. Just make sure You drink plenty of water because protEin alone is hard on your kidneys. Water filters that out. As far as getting your apatite back? That my friend just takes time.....it will come back just dont force it. Your body will let you know
Jerrica Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Right after my breakup, I didn't eat either, it's normal. But I did buy Boost with added calories......I lived on it for a few days, slowly I'd force myself to eat very small portions. it might take a couple weeks b ut your appetite WILL come back! my breakup cost me 12 lbs, and I'm trying to keep it off now because I've been getting compliments on my weight loss! Not the best way to lose weight...but hey, I guess something positive CAN come out of a break up.
dragonfly22 Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 I know what you mean. When I went through a previous breakup 7 years ago I remember I couldn't stop eating. I just ate whatever I could find at all times. I was aware that I was gaining weight but even then I couldn't help myself. I ended up gaining about 20 lbs. This time however I can barely eat. Im just not hungry and when I try to eat I also feel like throwing up. I guess eventually the appetite will return as we progress.
loverboy1984 Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 I went from weighing 200 pounds to 183 in less than 2weeks. I love eating and I always eat alot but just didnt have the appetite. I also couldnt sleep. I would wake up at 6am and just lay there not tired but not wanting to get up either. It took me a month to get back to normal. As far as eating goes I think you should try to maybe exercise to get your appetite back. Maybe smoke marijuana ( just kidding although thats why its used in AIDS and Cancer patients). I just used this as an opportunity to lose weight and look better, which I now do. I have got my appetite back but I try not to eat too much at night. As with everything else time makes you feel better. Infact you know your healing when you get your appetite back.
Hopeless Girl Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Its not good to loose weight like that and then gain it back again. It screws up your metabolism. The right way to lose weight is to eat based on a diet and exercise. And for some people like me and maybe this guy who wrote this post we cant lose weight. Im 5'5 and Im at 107 and I was at 114. Its not healthy for our bodies and theres a certain weight u should have depending on ur height.
b_rouse Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 I was in your exact place in November and December. Just putting food in my mouth made my stomach turn. You just have to think of it this way, Treat your breakup as if you were sick. Would not eating help you get over your sickness faster? No, it will hinder it. Keeping busy is wonderful! Keep a journal, that helped me out a lot as well. You just have to find what works for you and stick with it! But you HAVE to eat. I know how hard it is, believe me, I do, I'm sure we all do.
sabienne Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 I can relate to this! Before the break up, I was an extremely healthy eater and a devoted exerciser. Five gym workouts a week, never touched fast food. Post break up, I lost 11lbs in three days, and then about 9 in the next week! I could hardly eat for about two weeks. Then I went the other way. I'd lost a bit of weight and was like "sure, I can have three family bags of doritos in one sitting! Then I can go to taco bell! Then I can eat an entire box of chocolates! Yay me!!" I think I ate more junk in that week than I have in the last year. Amazingly, only gained 2lbs back. So here I am - a month later, still 18lbs lighter and down a dress size, but back to eating healthy and exercising which I think is helping me heal further. My appetite is back too. It does come back eventually. You need to, like everything else, give it time.
Fufu Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 I didn't eat well after my ex broke up with me too, so I ate very little. You don't have to force yourself to eat and drink, however do take some food and drink at least you have some strength.
melenkurion Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 I lost about 8 kilos in two weeks. Very, very bad. But there was nothing that I could do. You may need to rely on other mechanisms to recognise that you need to eat. I did not get hungry, but I did get dizzy at times. The appetite returns, in time. Maybe after six weeks I was approaching normal.
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