proactivedreamer Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 Alrighty people, so I really don't get the opposite sex-I am a woman by the way, and I just don't know what I am suppose to do when it comes to dating. I started kinda dating this guy, and so far I am the one initiating contact all the time. I am not sure if he is just playing it cool, not all that interested, or what! I don't blow up his phone or anything like that. We have seen each other twice, and I really can't figure him out. I just feel like I am really clueless when it comes to men. I have some experience, but I still don't really know the rules or what I should be looking for. Can someone give me some insight?
Professor X Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 He does not call you at all? Doesn't even text you or e-mail you? The only way you meet is if you set the date? That's quite bizzare really. To my experience most men who find their date attractive will be the ones who initiate contact. How many dates have you had so far? If its somewhere along the lines of 4 and more than you can try and not contact him for a while and see what happens. If he won't initiate any contact than it's probably best to move on. Not sure what else to tell you. Good luck! =)
Author proactivedreamer Posted April 17, 2011 Author Posted April 17, 2011 I have been the one initiating contact pretty much after our first date. He did message me to hang out just a few days ago, but it just seems like I am the one pursuing him more than he is pursuing me. We have only been on two dates. I am not really sure what is level of interest is. I pulled back and then he contacted me, so maybe I should play it cool like he is? I am not really sure as to what his intentions are.I am just clueless as to how this dating thing works.
Eddie Edirol Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 This is the way I work, pretty much let the woman initiate most of the contact until I know for sure she is into me and not just filling a void. If he seems curious and asks you questions about who you are as a person, hes interested. Its too soon to really make a call on this, since he is responding and its only been 1 or 2 dates. If he starts blowing you off and making excuses not to see you, then you know you have to bail.
Professor X Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 I have been the one initiating contact pretty much after our first date. He did message me to hang out just a few days ago, but it just seems like I am the one pursuing him more than he is pursuing me. We have only been on two dates. I am not really sure what is level of interest is. I pulled back and then he contacted me, so maybe I should play it cool like he is? I am not really sure as to what his intentions are.I am just clueless as to how this dating thing works. You make it sound like it has a rule book. It doesn't. To each his own. BUT! the general consensus is that in the beginning you give the other person more free space than usual so that he/she can get used to the idea of another one. Usually there are those power games at the beginning of each RS, where 1 or both sides try to show how strong they are by not being to needy or by letting the other one chase them. Eventually those games will fade away... So, since you've been to 2 dates only so far, in my opinion you should just take it easy, don't over-think things just yet, just as Eddie Edirol said. And if he starts blowing you off and such, than it's time to say bye.
HeartOnSleeve Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Alrighty people, so I really don't get the opposite sex-I am a woman by the way, and I just don't know what I am suppose to do when it comes to dating. I started kinda dating this guy, and so far I am the one initiating contact all the time. I am not sure if he is just playing it cool, not all that interested, or what! I don't blow up his phone or anything like that. We have seen each other twice, and I really can't figure him out. I just feel like I am really clueless when it comes to men. I have some experience, but I still don't really know the rules or what I should be looking for. Can someone give me some insight? Dating is tough....I've decided to go with my gut but it still leaves me horribly confused about men...hahaha! I say don't contact him and see what happens. Every guy is different. Some want the chase and some don't. Good luck!
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