Freshprince Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 Women: What are some things that you would like to know about a guy right away when you read his online dating profile? This includes the free-text and close-ended questions. Thanks!
perfectlyunique Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 Is he trustworthy, like to have fun, if he has kids..what hes interested in because not everyone likes the same..just be honest..theres no point in lying .if you really want a partner just be honest with what you are looking for and what you like. If your not they will be dissapointed. If you lie and someone meets you and your not what you say you are they wont want a second date i wish you luck x
Jazzari Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 What is he looking for? LTR or to casually date? If he's divorced, I want to know how long he's been single. Does he have children? Do they live with him? How old are they? What is his job/income? Education? Does he like dogs? This one is a deal breaker for me since I love them. Is he city or a nature/outdoors person? Where does he like to hang out? Couch potato or active? Drink? Does he enjoy the bar scene? Smoke? Hobbies? What is he looking for in a partner? Things I look for in reading his profile are a sense of humor, honesty and directness.
Professor X Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 Sadly, this becomes more like a job interview hence why I dislike dating sites...
lovingADove Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 Women like to conduct Job interviews these days ... and they call it dating ...
Jazzari Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 I see nothing wrong in finding out certain things before dating. Why waste time on someone if they are not what you want? A few simple questions can save you both time and grief. There is more to a relationship than love. You also have to be compatible or you'll both just wind up miserable. However, I don't coldly pepper the potential date with questions. I find out those things slowly in the course of conversations or what is stated on his profile.
MarlyStar Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Well, I'll tell you what I don't look for which I saw on a profile today. The guy wrote that he was looking for a christian woman because any woman who'd rebel against God would rebel against her husband. Gave me chills.
zengirl Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 I look to see whether a man is relationship-minded (i.e. he is looking to have kids and get married someday, he values and nurtures his relationships, he is more interested in building a longterm partnership than quick fun, etc), fun, happy, ambitious/has goals, and is intelligent. Capitalization and spelling are huge for me on a profile, as is diction. I look for common interests. A guy who is optimistic and happy is a big turn on. A guy who enjoys his job is key, but also has friends and other hobbies. A man who has time for a relationship --- and will make time for it --- but also has things he loves to do with his time already. He MUST be college educated, in my age range, living very nearby (in my area of the city or close), and looking for something serious. And I must feel happy and like I'm having fun when I'm with him. In terms of values, I worry less online, because my profile (which shows I'm non-Christian and demonstrates my political/religious values clearly) keeps away those who are really incompatible. But I look at that stuff too. No drug use and no strict religion, as well.
Jazzari Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Well, I'll tell you what I don't look for which I saw on a profile today. The guy wrote that he was looking for a christian woman because any woman who'd rebel against God would rebel against her husband. Gave me chills. Yikes. I read one once that was VERY religious. He made it very clear that only God fearing woman should apply. He wrote me and asked to hook up. I said no, that I was not Christian and in fact was Wiccan. He said he didn't mind.
Duckduckgoose Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Women like to conduct Job interviews these days ... and they call it dating ... This! Hmmm... what would I look for on a dating profile. Hmm... well I would want to know basic things like: What they are looking for out of a relationship. What sorts of interests they have. Are they single, divorced, separated, married. Do they have kids or want kids. Something of their personality. What sorts of religious/spiritual views they hold. Something of their intelligence. Usually I can tell general intelligence by how well they write their own profile. If they can't use words instead of letters ( you and u: Two and 2) its a big turn off. What some of their short and long terms goals for life are. And how much they exercise... this a big one for me... I want a physically healthy mate. No lazies. I keep myself in shape for a man I expect the same from him.
MarlyStar Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 A couple other do nots: Do not speak of yourself in the 3rd person: "Harry is very interested in an intelligent, sensual and sexual woman" (I saw that tonight on--not good). Don't have a pix of you in a wife-beater. They always look low class and people wearing them just look unintelligent.
yah Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 What kind of relationship they are looking for and what stage is life they are in. Long-term leading to marriage? Or dating casually but not opposed to marriage with the right person? Still in school, at an entry level position, living with parents? Or has an established respectable career with a matching salary that is stable? Highest degree obtained? If it so far meets my expectations, then I'll go on to read about his dis/likes, hobbies, etc.
rickysgirl Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 Women like to conduct Job interviews these days ... and they call it dating ... cause most guys are schmucks.. lol seriously
Author Freshprince Posted April 18, 2011 Author Posted April 18, 2011 These comments have all been helpful so far, thank you ladies! There is just so much that I can write about myself in a dating profile, and it's really nice to have an idea of what you would like to know. Keep the comments coming!
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