lovingADove Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 Hi everyone, Been reading here for a while, but never had a courage to post. I'll try to make this short and to the point as much as possible. I'll appreciate woman's input as I'm a little unsure how to proceed with my situation. A few years ago, I met this girl in my social circle. She was in her mid 20s and I was in my late 30s. Although I liked her (and she seemed interested in me as well), her apparent level of maturity didn't seem on par to what I was looking for at the time. We became friends on facebook, however I showed more interest to women closer to my age. She left town, a little frustrated as nothing was really happening for her... A few years have passed and she is now 30 and because we stayed in touch through facebook, I have noticed that she has become more mature as a person. I have dated in the meantime, but nothing serious has come out of those. I'm single again and I know she is single as well. I'm interested in her again, and not sure how to reconnect with her again, or at least try... I sent her a message just to say hi, she hasn't responded. What would be the best way for me to reconnect with her again? Does it even make sense to try it again? Has she written me completely off? LovingADove
Feelin Frisky Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 It doesn't bode well if she hasn't responded. You might want to take one more shot at just seeing if she'll communicate with you. I don't mean this to say that you profess your interest in her yet--just at least see if and how she gets back to you about the message you already sent or its follow-up. Easy does it but be prepared for the worst. Good luck.
Nexus One Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 It's possible that she didn't know what to say to your text. Well maybe she could have said hi back, but her options in that case are limited. However she could have at least tried to respond with: "Hi, that's been a long time, how are doing?" I'm all for general friendliness by default towards everyone, unless they do something that hurts people intentionally, that's when I lower my opinion of someone on that issue. I don't know if she has written you off. If you say she's as mature as you think she is, then perhaps she has a valid reason for not responding.
Author lovingADove Posted April 17, 2011 Author Posted April 17, 2011 Thanks for the input. Yes I'm prepared for the worse. That doesn't frightens me at all. It is not going to be the end of the world, if I don't get her. However, I would like to be at peace that I have done the best I could. I have tried sending the message thing and it didn't work ... I'm wondering if there is something else I could try. She still has plenty of friends in the area, I have been wondering if that could be an avenue to find out ... Just brainstorming about possible things to try ...
Lucky_One Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 How did you send a message? FB? If that is the only way, that (at my age - about the same as yours) seems a little lame. I don't rely on FB to get in touch with people when the contact is important or timely. My FB messages can go unanswered for a while, unless they are from my mom! How far away from you is she geographically? She may not be interested in a LD thing. Try digging up her phone number somehow and give her a call. When I was dating, I wanted a man who CALLED me, instead of one who relied on other, less direct ways of contact.
Author lovingADove Posted April 19, 2011 Author Posted April 19, 2011 Thanks for the input. I simply sent her a message on FB, yes. The reason I did it is because she seems to be there most of the time and that appeared to be the most logical thing to do. Some people (including myself) even get their FB messages on their phones ... so, I wouldn't consider that to be unusual. She is quite far. Basically on the other side of the country. A good 4 hours flight. The distance doesn't bother me. But, you could be right. It might factor into her thinking. She currently lives with a relative of her, which doesn't make things easier either. Yes, I could dig out her number, but I usually prefer someone gives me their phone number directly. I would find it uncomfortable to speak to someone, who got my number ... without my permission. LovingADove How did you send a message? FB? If that is the only way, that (at my age - about the same as yours) seems a little lame. I don't rely on FB to get in touch with people when the contact is important or timely. My FB messages can go unanswered for a while, unless they are from my mom! How far away from you is she geographically? She may not be interested in a LD thing. Try digging up her phone number somehow and give her a call. When I was dating, I wanted a man who CALLED me, instead of one who relied on other, less direct ways of contact.
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