Should I ?

[nicefeelings]

I met this guy through online dating ,he was not a full member ,so has his facebook to add .Had sent him a request ,then we got talking ,by messages .

The messages were pretty regular ,then he did not reply for a week , he said that he had a health problem complication ,then I took my time to reply ,then he suggested that I am not intersted anylonger .

Then I asked if we meet up ,he said that he is not in shape ,and he does not going to give a good first impression .

I replied that it is superficial and I know it is going to be good as we spoke ,and I think it will be alright .

 

Then we exchanged phone numbers , we got talking very regularly , he was like calling me almost every other night .

He was full of interesting stories and funny things to say .

We agreed to meet he left me to choose the venue ,then on the day he texted just few hours before to cancel ,I got upset deleted him from facebook and took my time to answer his messages .

 

Then few weeks later , i added him saw on some pictures on facebook that what he said was true that ,he was a bit ill ,had cold sores ,which was stopping him from coming to the first date .

 

Then we eventually met , i thought he was good looking ,added to his humour I really liked what I saw , we had a good meal then at the end he said he wants to see me again ,then we kissed withpassion .

 

After that date I was feeling really overwelmed ,a a rosy planet .

The second date I was so nervous , he booked a really nice restaurant ,I was so late for the date ,because I was so nerveous Igot lost by car,while trying to get there ,I almost was not thinking .

 

After few more dates I gound myself really attached to him , had one night when I called him on his mobile ,house ,old mobile ,almost I could not go through the night till I hear his voice ..

Then I was like asking him what are we ,this relation he said ,you are mine ,

then on the next date I did ask again , and again ,what was ithinking ..

 

Two dates after that he broke up with me , he said that it is going very fast ,he thought he is ready ,but he is not ...

 

When he broke up with me the first thing I felt is relief ,I do not know why?

 

A week after that I phoned him ,he called back we spoke he said that his back is getting better .we talked like before,he said on the night we broke up he felt teary eyed because he felt guilty ,I said do not be I felt relieved then we said bye .

 

Then thge next day I sent hi a message saying I felt relieved because I thought he did not reciprocate my feeling ,and I never felt like this for a while .

 

Few days later he deleted me from face book ,I could not find courage to speak to him ,and also I am trying to make sense ,it is driving me mad .

Maybe he is not the right person but I am trying to understand what I did wrong ?if he really liked me and still lkes me ?

It has been 3 weeks since i sent him the message and him deleting me from facebook.

Can some one please shed some light ?

Thanks

[Fufu]

Personally, i don't think it is necessary to find out if he really liked you or not. It wouldn't change the reality at all.

 

Just let go... you are already doing very well for not contacting him at all.

 

Look forward, don't look back anymore.

[DenverBachelor]

Few days later he deleted me from face book ,I could not find courage to speak to him ,and also I am trying to make sense ,it is driving me mad .

Maybe he is not the right person but I am trying to understand what I did wrong ?if he really liked me and still lkes me ?

It has been 3 weeks since i sent him the message and him deleting me from facebook.

Can some one please shed some light ?

Thanks

 

This guy sounds like an insecure freak. I wouldn't even give it a second thought. You can do much better.

 

Ps: Cold sores and you kissed him passionately? Do you not care about your health?

[Irishlove]

It sounds like he has issues that go way deeper. He made that clear before you even met. You have a very co-dependant personality. You can not be his savior and make him feel comfortable about himself. I think you felt relief because that pressure was let off of you.

You sound kind, find someone who is already put together emotionally, physically and otherwise.

[nicefeelings]

This guy sounds like an insecure freak. I wouldn't even give it a second thought. You can do much better.

 

Ps: Cold sores and you kissed him passionately? Do you not care about your health?

 

Thanks for your reply ,

He did say that he was insecure before we met , I feel guilty as I said it will be fine .

 

lol The coldsore gone by then !

[nicefeelings]

It sounds like he has issues that go way deeper. He made that clear before you even met. You have a very co-dependant personality. You can not be his savior and make him feel comfortable about himself. I think you felt relief because that pressure was let off of you.

You sound kind, find someone who is already put together emotionally, physically and otherwise.

 

Thanks ,

You are so spot on ,thanks for your opinion

[nicefeelings]

Personally, i don't think it is necessary to find out if he really liked you or not. It wouldn't change the reality at all.

 

Just let go... you are already doing very well for not contacting him at all.

 

Look forward, don't look back anymore.

 

Thanks ,I hope I can resist the urge not to contact him ...

[Fufu]

nicefeelings: You can resist the urge Believe in yourself.

[DollyGirl12]

Sounds like what my ex was doing to women. He also has serious back issues. Found most of it out after I dumped him. Had an online profile saying he wanted a relationship/marriage/all the good stuff. He would make women think he was interested, call all the time, text all the time, then get "insecure" or couldn't deal with being involved because of his "issues".

What's the point of having an online profile for dating if you are just going to play games.

 

Best thing is to just move on. This guy either has some big mental issues or is just extremely emotionally immature.