KikiW Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 He sounds like a real piece of work and it's good that YOU know the game he playing. Once you understand the game, you know how to play it better. Your description of how he expects you to relent and when you smile and wave him away he sulks is proof that you have the upper hand. What's better is that he KNOWS you have the upper hand and boy is that getting under his skin. The song "womanizer" keeps popping into my head (although it's the Lily Allen version I hear )
Mimolicious Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Thank you so much, Freestyle. I *just* flipped out and now I feel guilty and stupid and horrible. I just realized that I can't stand having him here. All he does is shout at home, so I went to his office and told him I wanted him out. We are moving in 3 weeks, so of course I am being 'irrational'. I didn't make a big scene, but I did make a little one. And that's one thing I can NEVER do - embarrass him at work. And i 've just done it. He's gonna hate me forever now. I've been doing the 180 for 5 weeks perfectly. And I just threw it all away.... Polly, check this out... FACK'EM! Who cares if you made a scene? Listen, he didn't give a rats a$$ when noone was watching. That says a lot about his integrity, which is not for you to sugar coat. Move on! Best of luck!
carrie999 Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I was looking for a picture for my kid's class on H's computer and couldn't find one, so did a search and suddenly this whole secret file of pictures of HER came up. It was an emotional affair (as far as I know) and he was in love with her for 2 years, so I thought, but clearly those feelings are still there. I started to shake and cry and my hands went numb and I had trouble breathing. I had seriosly believed it was over. I've been doing so well, but all the pain has come rushing back. I FEEL SO HEARTBROKEN AND SO STUPID. I am freaking out, this hurts so much. WTH??!! I spoke to him on the phone (he is away on business) and he said he was sorry that I found the pictures, and that's what I get for snooping (!!!!). That was so mean. He's so angry at me. I'm so sorry!!! He's a horrible person, IMHO. You need to put his personal belongings at the curb, and don't blame yourself for a single thing. (((((Hugs)))))
Author PollyIvy Posted April 29, 2011 Author Posted April 29, 2011 He sounds like a real piece of work and it's good that YOU know the game he playing. Once you understand the game, you know how to play it better. Your description of how he expects you to relent and when you smile and wave him away he sulks is proof that you have the upper hand. What's better is that he KNOWS you have the upper hand and boy is that getting under his skin. The song "womanizer" keeps popping into my head (although it's the Lily Allen version I hear ) I thought about this all evening - this idea that I'm understanding 'the game' and playing it better.
KikiW Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 It's unfortunate that it is someone so close that is playing this game. There are many books out there, dealing more with how to play the "corporate" game (books on how to play office politics and get ahead in the business world), but that's exactly what he's doing. He's trying to manipulate you, but you're on to him. You know what he's up to, and by essentially c*ckblocking him, you have the upper hand. My father used to work in procurement for the US government, which means he used to negotiate weapons deals with manufacturers. His tactic was to be more emotional with reps who stuck to the facts, and more factual/numbers-based with reps who were more emotional. Once my mother figured out his tactic, she ended up with the longer end of the stick when she'd finally had enough of his crap.
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