sweetblubrry Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 So I accidentally blew NC last week (almost 7 weeks) and started over again. Last night he messaged me on facebook and wants to meet up and talk. NOW WHAT? We had quite a conversation on facebook chat. He was upset at me for the way I acted at work that day (I made eye contact with him but didn't say anything). I was pissed about his reaction to my text last week so we argued about that for a bit. He said he cares about me and my well being and wants to talk. He also asked if what I want... if i wanted for him to come over and pretend like nothing ever happened? I aksed him what he meant... and he said for nothing to have changed between us? I am so confused... it has changed b/c he broke up with me! We broke up at the end of Jan. Together for 8 months. We also work together but I haven't seen him for almost 2 months until this week. How do I approach this meeting.
PelicanPete Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 I guess it depends on what YOU want. Do you want back together with him? What exactly were the reasons for breaking up? Keep all this in mind, and decide whether you want to continue a relationship with him or not.
Author sweetblubrry Posted April 17, 2011 Author Posted April 17, 2011 I do want to get back with him, with cautiousness of course. He broke up with me because he was upset about his own life and needed to fix his own issues. Self-esteem, upset about his place in life, where he was going, etc. Didn't want to drag me down. Don't know if he has figured anything out yet but I guess I will find out.
Hopeless Girl Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 I do want to get back with him, with cautiousness of course. He broke up with me because he was upset about his own life and needed to fix his own issues. Self-esteem, upset about his place in life, where he was going, etc. Didn't want to drag me down. Don't know if he has figured anything out yet but I guess I will find out. yea... same thing that happened to me... he told me has issues and didnt wanna drag me down ... hes going to therapy now ... i dont contact him at all... i wish i could... every day I drift apart a little bit ... here's the THING: they do care about us, they are probably thinking about us, they do "miss" us but in the end if they wanted to be with us THEY WILL BE WITH US .... it sucks cause we have implanted on our brains all those good moments but we cannot control their emotions and feelings ..we cannot do anything to get them back.. ANYTHING AT ALL ... its their own issues ... all we can do is NC ... and whatever happens just stick to being urself ...
LifeIsGreat Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 Here's something I have learned..... When someone says they have issues, believe them!!! When they say you are better off withou them, belive them!!! When they say they will only drag you down, believe them!!! Just be happy you found out sooner than later, and move on with life. I hate to say it, but most people with "issues" never truly address them. Very few people are able to recognize and then do something about 'issues'.
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