sugarcult Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 ok so im 19 in college and my girlfriend is 18 and we have been going out for five months(this is also the amount of time we've known each other). We're pretty much the same person (which is why i asked her out), we're very open when we talk, we say the L-word daily, and we used to talk a lot about moving in together in the fall. Lately ive been feeling like i get on her nerves for no reason and ive noticed little differences. when we sleep together she used to snuggle up to me or we'd spoon, but now i feel like its me trying to cuddle up to her. Also i naturally walk pretty fast (im an athlete) and she used catch up to me but now she doesnt and its me slowing down to walk by her. Is she sick of me? Are we losing the "spark"? We never fight, and always used to talk about anything but lately she feels less approachable and more distant. The last month i pretty much lived in her dorm room, because we just didnt want to be apart, she would beg me to stay the night or come back down after work, and now we only spend the weekends together which is totally cool, and we still see each other everyday, but i feel like the emotional closeness we had at the beginning is fading. Also me being a year older have a ton of friends down here and while i do love that she' s made all of my friends her friends, i cant help but feel like shes pushing me away from them and pulling them towards her. Keep in mind this is my first girlfriend, not to toot my own horn, but im pretty good looking and physically fit and to be honest i used to be a big "player" so im not really used to relationships, while on the other hand she has had three boyfriends before me. Am i just freaking out or is there this something that needs to be addressed before it tears us apart? I really do love this girl, and i would hate to lose her. How should i go about this?
Stilicho Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 ok so im 19 in college and my girlfriend is 18 and we have been going out for five months(this is also the amount of time we've known each other). We're pretty much the same person (which is why i asked her out), we're very open when we talk, we say the L-word daily, and we used to talk a lot about moving in together in the fall. Lately ive been feeling like i get on her nerves for no reason and ive noticed little differences. when we sleep together she used to snuggle up to me or we'd spoon, but now i feel like its me trying to cuddle up to her. Also i naturally walk pretty fast (im an athlete) and she used catch up to me but now she doesnt and its me slowing down to walk by her. Is she sick of me? Are we losing the "spark"? We never fight, and always used to talk about anything but lately she feels less approachable and more distant. The last month i pretty much lived in her dorm room, because we just didnt want to be apart, she would beg me to stay the night or come back down after work, and now we only spend the weekends together which is totally cool, and we still see each other everyday, but i feel like the emotional closeness we had at the beginning is fading. Also me being a year older have a ton of friends down here and while i do love that she' s made all of my friends her friends, i cant help but feel like shes pushing me away from them and pulling them towards her. Keep in mind this is my first girlfriend, not to toot my own horn, but im pretty good looking and physically fit and to be honest i used to be a big "player" so im not really used to relationships, while on the other hand she has had three boyfriends before me. Am i just freaking out or is there this something that needs to be addressed before it tears us apart? I really do love this girl, and i would hate to lose her. How should i go about this? hey man, welcome to the forums. its good that you see the small changes before it grows worse and blindsides you. honestly, to renew that spark, just be the person that you were when you met her. also, give each other space, otherwise youll smother her. lastly, talk to her about it, ask her whats wrong, bc honestly, when girls start making small changes like that, theyre starting to emotionally distance themselves from you, in preparation of a possible break up, and in worse case scenario, bc they have eyes on someone else. but, keep your head up, stay cool and confident and be you, im sure itll work out.
Author sugarcult Posted April 18, 2011 Author Posted April 18, 2011 hey man thanks alot that really helped
Stilicho Posted April 18, 2011 Posted April 18, 2011 hey man thanks alot that really helped of course man, glad i was able to help a bit, after all, everybody on these forums has come here for a reason, and have experienced all the highs and lows of relationships. dont be a stranger here bro, people here can be very supportive. Im about your age, and went through a similar thing with my ex, who i was with over 2 years, i know how messed up it can make u feel, but bottomline is you have to keep going forward at all times and stay true to you.
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