Crazy Magnet Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 After hanging out with super-glued snail pace guy three times over the past week (I think stepping up my own game/flirtatious behavior was what he waiting for) I canceled my match account. We aren't exclusive, we haven't done anything more than kiss, but I want to give it a chance and see where it goes. I like this guy. As we were driving around lost looking for a certain restaurant, he says something along the lines of "This is a real test of a new relationship!" I'm taking that as a good sign. I laughed and agreed but said nothing more about the "R" word. It took us more than a month of daily communication for me to get a kiss. I can't imagine how long the rest of this is gonna take! He tells me he likes how I smell, how nice I am, that I am petite, etc. He also told me his Dad was asking questions about what I was like. These are all good signs...yes? My plan should be stay the course and let him keep leading. I was quite impressed with how much he stepped up his game after I made my walking u-turn the other day to stop and chat with him.
Author Crazy Magnet Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 Can I also mention the large number of lunatics there seem to be on match!
nelib Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Is he still on Match.com and if he is...is he still active on there? I wouldn't mention anything to him about you cancelling your account unless he brings it up.
Author Crazy Magnet Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 He told me last week (unprompted) that he canceled his account. He didn't ask about the status of my account and I didn't say anything.
Author Crazy Magnet Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 Seeing as how he has a kid....I'd say no to the virgin thing!
xpaperxcutx Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Could it be that he's a single father that he's moving at a snail's pace? I think most single fathers either do one of two things- date for their kids or date for themselves. If they don't have custody, they date to avoid singledom. If they do have custody, they date with their kids in mind. He sounds like a very family oriented man and is moving at a snail's pace because he is being careful in regards to who he brings into his life. Have you met his kid yet?
threebyfate Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Good luck CM! It's really hard to tell with a slow moving guy where he's coming from, since it takes awhile to build a pattern on him.
Author Crazy Magnet Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 Could it be that he's a single father that he's moving at a snail's pace? I think most single fathers either do one of two things- date for their kids or date for themselves. If they don't have custody, they date to avoid singledom. If they do have custody, they date with their kids in mind. He sounds like a very family oriented man and is moving at a snail's pace because he is being careful in regards to who he brings into his life. Have you met his kid yet? He doesn't have custody, but he seems like a very devoted Dad. If he wasn't I wouldn't have considered dating him. I haven't met the kid yet. My thought was when the time came he would ask me to meet the kid. Until then, I'm not going to bring it up. We do talk about his kid at least once in every conversation. I ask questions and he likes to tell me cute little kid stories. Good luck CM! It's really hard to tell with a slow moving guy where he's coming from, since it takes awhile to build a pattern on him. His pattern is slow but has been very consistent over time. He doesn't let a day go by without communicating with me. He's now starting to mention doing things together past just the next date and some activities that will take several meetings to accomplish. He doesn't shy away from holding my hand out in public or putting his arm around me. So far no red flags!! I've got my eyes peeled for them this time.
OliveOyl Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 After hanging out with super-glued snail pace guy three times over the past week (I think stepping up my own game/flirtatious behavior was what he waiting for) I canceled my match account. We aren't exclusive, we haven't done anything more than kiss, but I want to give it a chance and see where it goes. I like this guy. Woot! You go girl!! How did his "super-glued" moniker come about?
threebyfate Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 His pattern is slow but has been very consistent over time. He doesn't let a day go by without communicating with me. He's now starting to mention doing things together past just the next date and some activities that will take several meetings to accomplish. He doesn't shy away from holding my hand out in public or putting his arm around me. So far no red flags!! I've got my eyes peeled for them this time.Well that's good! He's moving faster than I thought. My clock is set for Jan. 1, 2012 for the consummation!
Author Crazy Magnet Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 Woot! You go girl!! How did his "super-glued" moniker come about? In a previous thread on this guy I describe the pace of our relationship as a snail that had been super-glued to the sidewalk. It took several weeks just to get a good night kiss. It was initially odd for me but then I let go of my internal crazy and let it develop organically. Who knows if that will work but whatever, I'm having fun. I shall go where ever this takes me.
Author Crazy Magnet Posted April 16, 2011 Author Posted April 16, 2011 Well that's good! He's moving faster than I thought. My clock is set for Jan. 1, 2012 for the consummation! Oh lord I hope not! I'm a 31 year old woman...I've got hormones like a 15 year old dude. I would start humping his leg!!
threebyfate Posted April 16, 2011 Posted April 16, 2011 Oh lord I hope not! I'm a 31 year old woman...I've got hormones like a 15 year old dude. I would start humping his leg!! You know I'm just teasing. It's interesting to hear about a slow mover. My fingers are crossed for you on this guy. At present, he appears to be a decent man, not just looking for a pair of pants to get into.
Author Crazy Magnet Posted April 17, 2011 Author Posted April 17, 2011 So do I mention that I have taken my account down or wait until he asks something about it?
start-fresh Posted April 17, 2011 Posted April 17, 2011 So do I mention that I have taken my account down or wait until he asks something about it? If I was him and had told you I took mine down, I'd be pretty happy to hear you did the same. I don't think you're going to scare him away or anything at this point.
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