My girlfriend said its over, but its not the case, im in the right! what shall i do?

[selfrespect118]

My girlfriend just said its over, in a overly emphasized way. She texted me with vulgar language **** you **** this **** relationship etc. The reason being i didnt go to pick her up from work last friday.

 

I normally always pick her up on friday at 8pm from her workplace even though its late im tired it cost me a few pounds and it takes an hour to get there on the train.. i dont mind, infact i enjoy doing it for her. She never has to ask me i always just do it, out of love, not as a duty.

 

I have no reason to lie on here and this may sound like excuses but this is the truth: this last friday i forgot my phone at home and i went footy with my friends. i normally text her where im going and i could have texted her from my friends phone but i had the intention of picking her up so i wos gonna tell her then and i didnt want to use my friends phone so i didnt. Normally we finish early like 6 ish but this time i didnt check the time as i didnt have my phone on me (which i usually use to check my time) and i just plain forgot.

 

Ok i accept i should have checked and that was my mistake but i forgot! anyway when i got back i texted her that this is what happen. btw in no way did we plan to pick her up, but i normally do.

 

Today, she was ill so i went to the market and got her fruit and an ice cream because she likes it. I always do little stuff for her which she loves and for once i made a ****ing mistake!

 

She said she should have known its died down (relationship) and that im making excuses. she said in so many words its over.

 

BUT THE THING IS, IM NOT LYING AND I DO LOVE HER TO MY FULLEST! I DIDN'T AVOID HER ON PURPOSE OR SOMETHING! I FEEL SO BAD THAT IM IN THE TRUTH AND I WANT TO PROVE MYSELF!

 

but i havent texted her back just incase i say something i regret like swearing at her etc. what should i do? i want to explain myself, but how? and should i just leave it hoping somehow she will realise it herself?

 

ps she has high insecurity always told me relationship going to die down etc.. i swear that is not the case.

[Mcnulty]

You seem like a genuine guy and had a valid reason.

 

I would leave it for a few days, let the dust settle and then speak with her.

 

The insecurities she has....has she any reason to be insecure with you? If not, you're fighting an uphill battle...if it's innate and just the way she is naturally, it puts a huge strain on a relationship in my experience.

 

Good luck.

[Candi-Anne]

OMG I do exaclty that to my boyfriend all the time. I treat him like a slave on purpose cause I know I can. He begs me to stop. I also text im frequently saying 'Its over' 'I cant do this' 'Im leaving' 'I can do better' etc... The thing is none of it is actually true :/ I love him very very much, I just like scaring the hell out of him so he does as hes told. VERY harsh I know. I make him pick me up too and when hes late I do exactly what ur ex did :') its mad how much its the same. I guess now I know how terrible it feels for him I will try to stop being so mean. As for you if shes anything like me she probably doesnt mean it at all ... just knows she can get away with it, good luck x